Got my girlfriend's father's blessing to marry her on a run today

Old Skool wrote:

Not a matter of permission, a matter of respect.

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OP knows what he's doing.

The people saying, 'you're treating her like an object by asking her father's permission' are crazy. This man put a roof over her head, gave her food and clothes, put her through school, and sacrificed a significant portion of his life so that she could have the best. And then to say, 'no need to let him know your intentions...'

This man has a significant interest in his daughter's future, he should at least be allowed the common decency of being aware of what's about to take place.

Do you seriously think he wouldn't have found out about an engagement?

I didn't ask. Just told them what was what. Like a boss.

Wait! What? wrote:

You married her on a run today?!

This is what I thought happened. It would have been a much better story.

Heisenberg wrote:

Got my girlfriend's father's blessing to marry her on a run today

Why do you want to marry her on a run today? Wouldn't she rather have a traditional ceremony a little later on down the road once you've had a chance to plan and prepare for the event?

Flagpole wrote:

I didn't ask. Just told them what was what. Like a boss.

Good for you! I did the exact same thing. I wanted to set the right tone with the future in-laws......."I'm in charge now"

I went one step further. I didn't even ask my wife to marry me, I just told her, like a boss.

I want my future son-in-law's respect. Who wouldn't? But I prefer he earn it without linking us in anything like a transfer of human goods. I know it's a troll thread, but there's my 2 cents.

Thanks, and to answer a previous poster's question she and I had already made the decision just had not put a ring on her finger until speaking with her father. It's turned out great with her family, and her father has been really supportive. I really don't know her family that well, but when she had informed me her father was into running I knew that would be a good in.

Nice work, OP. That's a fun memory you'll tell your grandkids about. Good to see some positivity around here at the intersection of life and serious running/runners.

My mom loves me just as much as my future wife will. And my mom dedicated her life to my brothers and I as we grew up. Shouldn't my girlfriend get permission from my mom, or at least tell her our plans before I propose?

Oh wait here's how it should work: I ask my girlfriend's dad if I can propose. If he says yes I propose to her. She says "hold on" and goes and asks my mom if she can accept my proposal. She responds in accordance with what my mom told her.

If this is really about gaining the respect of your future inlaws and not rooted in an unequal view of women and their ability to make their own decisions; then the girlfriend should ask my parents too. Her father wouldn't be happy with her marrying just anyone and my mom feels the same about me.

I really do think all the parents should know, but it should start with each person telling their own parents that there is talk of getting married. And no one should ask permission.

I think you're taking this a little too far. It's like one of the people who gets offended when you make a statement implying the male is the main source of income in the household. It is simply a longstanding tradition of a symbol of respect for the father of the bride. As stated by a previous poster, the father of the bride has taken care of her since the day she was born and loves her dearly. It's nice for the father to know that his daughter marrying a man who is with her for the right reasons and is a respectable guy. Every male in my family that has preceded me has asked the father of their to be bride for their blessing to marry her. When my dad asked for my grandfather's blessing to marry my mom he said that if he didn't ask soon that he was about to ask my dad to marry her. (Essentially Robert DeNiro and Ben Stiller in Meet the Parents..except they liked my dad.)