I got drinks with this cute 24 year old woman over the weekend. We are both medical students and our personalities mesh well. She has a nice body and I was stunned to learn when I asked her if she exercises she said "never".
She never played sports in high school but was a dancer (whatever that means). In college she was a sorority girl and it appears she's more interested in being social than taking care of herself. Overall she has no exposure on how to exercise which is unbelievable since she's so type A and is going to be a doctor!
Call me a bad person but I think this may be a deal-breaker already. She doesn't even seem that interested in becoming athletic saying "I might have to start exercising when my metabolism slows down". Being active and exercising are something I highly value about myself. It's pathetic to me that someone who is so well-educated and driven is in the same boat with most Americans who are apathetic about being physically fit and healthy.
I appreciated her honesty in having no desire to exercise but I don't know what to do with this one. Is it really the shallow of me to dismiss her as a serious partner because she doesn't exercise? The desire to be physically fit is an organic process that must originate from one's own motivation. If medical school has taught me anything, it's that it's impossible to change someone if they don't recognize the problem and are willing to address it.
Does anyone have experience in trying to encourage their non-athletic partner to exercise? I was thinking about trying to see if she'd be willing go on a walk with me and my dog. I would be inclined to try to teach her the basics of exercise, but it seems pointless if she's miserable the entire time.