Woman said offended by my going shirtless - later her huge boyfriend shows up

social responsibility wrote:

old guy 68 wrote:

I wouldn't have responded at all. Just keep running like you didn't hear her. If she continues, just continue to ignore her. She isn't entitled to a response.

This is a terrible answer, wimpy and ineffectual. If you don't show clearly that you're not going to take sh|t from someone, they will just try to figure out what to say or do next in order to get some kind of reaction. These people don't really care about the matter in question, they just want to push you down. However, nobody respects a wimp who don't have the guts, wits or social responsibility to stand up to social aggression. No need to be rude, a simple "no" is enough.

The correct response is "Not now, chief".

She was picking a fight. Who cares if you are wearing a shirt or not.

Urine idiot wrote:

osm wrote:

I honestly can't stand people acting like they have the right to censor something because it offends their delicate sensibilities, especially something as trivial as an exposed torso on a 90 degree day. The correct response would be to ignore her, or politely tell her to f*ck off.

She was definitely an Obama voter, nt in the right but who cares.

FWIW, I run shirtless all the time in NYC, and I almost never get a hard time. It's only in redder, more rural areas, that I've ever had an issue.

If you put your shirt on, then the terrorists have won.

old guy 68 wrote:

I wouldn't have responded at all. Just keep running like you didn't hear her. If she continues, just continue to ignore her. She isn't entitled to a response.

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social responsibility wrote:

This is a terrible answer, wimpy and ineffectual. If you don't show clearly that you're not going to take sh|t from someone, they will just try to figure out what to say or do next in order to get some kind of reaction. These people don't really care about the matter in question, they just want to push you down. However, nobody respects a wimp who don't have the guts, wits or social responsibility to stand up to social aggression. No need to be rude, a simple "no" is enough.

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Hey Mr "social responsibility"

You're an idiot and probably a 19 year old insecure little ego maniac.

Believe me...I am no wimp. But, I do have anger management problems that require me to avoid confrontations.

I use to drive a cab in the City. I was 'the captain of my ship' and didn't take shit from anyone. I put drunks, sitting in the front seat, into the windshield. I tossed women out of the cab in undesirable places of town. I did some pretty unacceptable things when people pissed me off.

I did things I'm ashamed of now, but I have matured.

But even then (30 years ago) my ego wasn't so fragile that having some old broad telling me to put my shirt on would have gotten to me.

Have you ever heard the phrase, "You have to pick your battles?"

Why do you feel the need to have to DEFEND YOUR SENSE OF SELF to some stupid woman? Who cares what she thinks.

When you get older you'll realize that ignoring someone is not only the most effective response, but also the one that will piss them off the most.

-1 out of 10. What a loser to take the time to post such garbage on a running site. Go out and run some miles loser.

I love these situations. They bring back the teenager punk I once was. I would have acted in a completely different way.

shirtless runner wrote:

FWIW, I run shirtless all the time in NYC, and I almost never get a hard time. It's only in redder, more rural areas, that I've ever had an issue.

FWIW, I run shirtless in a place as red & rural as it gets, a Texas town of 2000 in a county with 10 people/sq mi. Almost never get a hard time. Could it be that conservative voting and population density don't correlate with harassing shirtless runners?

+3

Like I said, listen to the old guy.

Red & Rural wrote:

shirtless runner wrote:

FWIW, I run shirtless all the time in NYC, and I almost never get a hard time. It's only in redder, more rural areas, that I've ever had an issue.

FWIW, I run shirtless in a place as red & rural as it gets, a Texas town of 2000 in a county with 10 people/sq mi. Almost never get a hard time. Could it be that conservative voting and population density don't correlate with harassing shirtless runners?

They probably give you a hard time because they know you're a yankee. I've never had any problems running shirtless, and I'm in the heart of the "bible belt". Only people who've told me to put a shirt on were some 6th grade boys making fun of my shorts as I did some intervals around the track. Then one challenged me to a race and embarrassed himself in front of his little buddies.

As far as saying "no" vs ignoring her, ignoring would probably be more effective, as I doubt she'd continue to ask you to put one on, but "no" would probably p^ss her off more, and lead to her trying to argue with you or something.

lol OP you're a p*ssy for putting your shirt back on. Actions like that tell me you're okay with losing in a race

You really should have done the "butt flossing" move with your shirt.

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There's some wisdom here, but let's stop using terms like "old broad" to refer to women. She was being an @sshole, but there's no need to break out old school sexist language to insult her. I'd just say, "it's hot out here. I'm here to do a workout, and this is standard gear for runners."

You put your shirt back on??? She was WALKING laps. I run shirtless in Dallas for much of three seasons. I'm 5' 8" and 145. I love it when Dallas women run in buns and sports bras. Your assailant is a repressed Puritan who needs the First Amendment explained to her. Also, walking of the kind she was probably doing isn't exercise. Perhaps NC is more conservative than Texas, which is hard to believe.

?* wrote:

There's some wisdom here, but let's stop using terms like "old broad" to refer to women. She was being an @sshole, but there's no need to break out old school sexist language to insult her. I'd just say, "it's hot out here. I'm here to do a workout, and this is standard gear for runners."

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The 'old school' sexist language was used intentionally to make a point. Thanks for picking up on it.

As far as your suggested response...I still don't think she deserves a response.

Maybe it was your man boobs and she mistook you for a female.

That's weird. Same woman asked me to take my shirt off. Told me she found it offensive for me to be covering up God's gifts.

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Xfit_guy_the_real_1 wrote:

I doubt she would have been offended if you were BUFF/RIPPED instead of a SCRAWNY runner. Lol.

This whole thread is actually the exact opposite of my experience. Usually the ladies tell me to take my shirt OFF. I get why that is.