I am recently divorced. During my marriage, my wife would complain about how much I'd train. She complained about just everything anyways....but she hated how much effort I put into my running to be good.
I'd get up at 5:30am before I she would even be awake and get the miles in. I'd also do a hard workout during lunch breaks if I could sneak out of the office.
Still, she'd complain. Even if it didn't conflict with our plans. She also hated how lean I was (she got pretty fat during out marriage so she felt sort of self-conscious around me.) I guess she wanted me to be fat.
So...did anyone else deal with his crap?
Did your significant other hate your dedication to running/training?
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ummm, just follow that shirt "date a runner all other athletes are players" haha... but really maybe you can wife a lady that will run with you rather than complain. She could have been a nice wifey and biked along beside you!
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Yup, she complained about my training. Like yours, she complained about just about everything. You are much better off without her.
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RunRun123 wrote:
She could have been a nice wifey and biked along beside you!
Um yes! She had a nice mountain bike. It just collected dust in our garage. I asked her to bike next to me...she always said NO. -
Well that's a red flag! It's crazy not to want to get out and enjoy fresh air. You'll be happier now that you can do what you want. She wouldn't have gotten fat if she would have ran or biked with you. I can guarantee you that. I encourage guys I date to run or bike with me.
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Maybe she gained weight because she was unhappy living with you. If so, you are probably both better off going your separate ways.
Are you an elite running making money from the sport or just a hobby runner? If you talk about running all the time, are super skinny, run lots of road races that interfere with other weekend social engagements, if you go to bed early because you are tired from running or because of an early morning run, then I would also find your running annoying.
Were you a willing participant in activities she enjoyed?
There are usually two sides to every story. It would be interesting to hear her take. Sounds like you will both benefit from a divorce. -
No. In fact, this morning I was supposed to run 40k and overslept. I was kind of lazing around and my wife said I should still go and that she would come and wait on the loop and give me my drinks. We're just heading out now. Guess I'm lucky.
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may she was unhappy wrote:
Maybe she gained weight because she was unhappy living with you. If so, you are probably both better off going your separate ways.
>>>> She would always gain it when she was unhappy. I'm not the first guy who she got fat on when they were dating. She was fat when she met me, got happy, lost weight. Got married. Got unhappy, gained weight. We split, she got fatter. Now she is thin again. She has dealt with major depression. She will get fat again, this time on someone else's watch.
may she was unhappy wrote:
Are you an elite running making money from the sport or just a hobby runner? If you talk about running all the time, are super skinny, run lots of road races that interfere with other weekend social engagements, if you go to bed early because you are tired from running or because of an early morning run, then I would also find your running annoying.
>>>>>I shut my mouth and never talked about it after she complained. Competitive...not amazing, 4:3X miler, 16:XX 5K's. Never tired. She'd fall asleep before me. I run about 5-7 road races per year. She attended none of them.
may she was unhappy wrote:
Were you a willing participant in activities she enjoyed?
There are usually two sides to every story. It would be interesting to hear her take. Sounds like you will both benefit from a divorce.
>>>>>>>>>>>>She did absolutely nothing. I urged her to get active, join book clubs, take dancing classes with me, etc. I even offered a couples painting class. No hobbies, no friends that routinely wanted to hang out with her.
Sad marriage. Did my best...loved her so much...can't fix someone who is that broken. -
I can't relate to the complaining about training, I love that my guy is dedicated to sports. It's his passion and I think it's cool.
If someone is overweight it is an outward expression of a personal problem. I could lose a few pounds and I know exactly why. My stress is high, work shifts are erratic so I have to go long periods without food, heathy food is a lot more expensive and I need a lot more of it to feel full. -
My wife said she would leave me if I did not stop running. I am really going to miss her.
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lol Hey Disney Princess, you're so dramatic :D
What the heck happened while I was at work? Did you swallow a pine cone? Hakuuna Matattttahhh -
Wife Fight wrote:
I am recently divorced. During my marriage, my wife would complain about how much I'd train. She complained about just everything anyways....but she hated how much effort I put into my running to be good.
I'd get up at 5:30am before I she would even be awake and get the miles in. I'd also do a hard workout during lunch breaks if I could sneak out of the office.
Still, she'd complain. Even if it didn't conflict with our plans. She also hated how lean I was (she got pretty fat during out marriage so she felt sort of self-conscious around me.) I guess she wanted me to be fat.
So...did anyone else deal with his crap?
Dude, I feel your pain, only without ever going through that, thank god.
How come divorce costs so much? --It's worth it.
Hope you land well with a copacetic female. -
Come here. come closer. closer...
it's your wife. I have a complaint:
I hated that I had to work tonight because all I wanted to do was be with you. -
perhaps we should talk.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDkhl-CgETg
RunRun123 wrote:
Well that's a red flag! It's crazy not to want to get out and enjoy fresh air. You'll be happier now that you can do what you want. She wouldn't have gotten fat if she would have ran or biked with you. I can guarantee you that. I encourage guys I date to run or bike with me. -
who?
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I'm not fat silly :D
And it's perfectly fine to want to be with your friends/significant others instead of being at work.
So...I am not really into the more space thing. I'd really like less space between us. Or maybe no space...mmm, yeah that sounds nice. -
Adler wrote:
I can't relate to the complaining about training, I love that my guy is dedicated to sports. It's his passion and I think it's cool.
If someone is overweight it is an outward expression of a personal problem. I could lose a few pounds and I know exactly why. My stress is high, work shifts are erratic so I have to go long periods without food, heathy food is a lot more expensive and I need a lot more of it to feel full.
Healthy food is dirt cheap. What in the world are you buying and calling healthy food? -
Well I'm dirt poor so it's not cheap enough. A lot of healthy foods, like veggies, require a ton of consumption to feel full. I've done the Wal-Mart budget on that - $12-15 a day for me, just for vegetables.
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Adler, you remind me of someone who used a similar alias and had coincidental perspectives. Perhaps we are closer than we are distant?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7v0KCoPMTdU
Adler wrote:
Well I'm dirt poor so it's not cheap enough. A lot of healthy foods, like veggies, require a ton of consumption to feel full. I've done the Wal-Mart budget on that - $12-15 a day for me, just for vegetables. -
I think I'm going to go to sleep. i don't feel very good about myself after reading all of that. I guess I'm not wanted.
