My wife bought a puppy without my prior agreement.

What breed of dog is it?

You could tell the reason your wife bought the dog,

was so she could relate to the beeatch personality of the animal.

And that it's okay.

OP, mean people suck. Don't be one.

Make a big deal about it but keep the puppy. Welcome to "being married."

AwkwardArwen wrote:

You two need to have an open convo about money if you haven't had one yet. It can be the top 3 biggest stressor in a marriage. My own personal advice on marriage and money - Both of you must have the same financial priorities (for large expenses) in the same order:

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I liked your post. What are the other two?

Exactly! You suck if you take the dog back. Your kids will never care about the truck or even remember that their mother bought it against your wishes. The dog they will remember for the rest of their lives.

bleu wrote:

Exactly! You suck if you take the dog back. Your kids will never care about the truck or even remember that their mother bought it against your wishes. The dog they will remember for the rest of their lives.

This thread started in 2013. Either the guy did the right thing and accepted the dog, or he's most likely divorced now, cuddling with lonely men for rent money.

Take the dog back or find it another home. She has no right to not have you on board.she needs to be happy with what y'all have raising kids is hard enough. Its not the money issue for me it's my time.as much as my wife would like a dog we have new little ones at home which i enjoy. But i dont want to spend one second of my life taking care of animal that i dont want or spend any extra money.i spent thousands on surgery on my ex wifes dog. Its blatant disrespect for you and you need to nip it now.

This dog is no longer a puppy. It is now middle-aged.

It's all fun and games when it's a puppy. When it gets bigger owners (especially little girls) start not to give a flying f**c about it and act like it's not their responsibility anymore.

People who try to replace real human interaction with a pet are in denial and are deranged. You can say to yourself that the dog loves you and all but really he doesn't have a choice. The pet doesn't even knows what choice means. They even compare their dogs to children which is insane. This humanization of pets is just disturbing to me.

A guy loses a kid and another one loses his dog. Now you tell me which one will be adopting a new one at the shelter next month?

That's all the venting for today I guess.

Rockstar Games wrote:

People who try to replace real human interaction with a pet are in denial and are deranged. You can say to yourself that the dog loves you and all but really he doesn't have a choice. The pet doesn't even knows what choice means. They even compare their dogs to children which is insane. This humanization of pets is just disturbing to me.

A guy loses a kid and another one loses his dog. Now you tell me which one will be adopting a new one at the shelter next month?

That's all the venting for today I guess.

I agree that some people lack perspective when it comes to the relative importance of animals and people, but It sounds like you just don't think people should care for animals at all.

And for what it's worth, I've never known someone to lose a dog and immediately go "replace" it with another one.

Great time to go buy a corvette. Problem solved.

I wasn't responding to the original poster moron.

blew many many many guys wrote:

I wasn't responding to the original poster moron.

Blow me, Bleu.

Have you seen 9-1/2 weeks?

It always helps to read the thread, I know it's hard with 6 pages but I have faith you can work up to it with training.

Did you write it in your prenup? If not, get over it, you sound like an entitled boy, not a man.

So you want to return the puppy and pay tens of thousands of dollars down the road trying to make amends to your kids and your wife because you now cannot get the newest PlayStation or other toys. Grow up and also learn to think long term (you also sound too much like the many immature boys on this forum).

blows boys and dogs wrote:

It always helps to read the thread, I know it's hard with 6 pages but I have faith you can work up to it with training.

Blow me, bleu.

We all tend to humanize our relationships with dogs, especially because so many of them are very loyal and are great companions.

But with maturity, a lot of dog owners do reach a good understanding of how to care for and treat a dog. With my last dog, i put her health first, fed her responsibly and made sure she was consistently clean and comfortable. Yes, I have a large house, and she had the entire run of it - meaning sometimes I didn't know where she was even though I knew she was in the house - but she was a very well behaved dog and it made her part of the family.

I did do a lot of reading of Temple Grandin's work on animal behavior and as to how animals and dogs think. This really put a stop to the humanization on my part of my dog. I wanted her to be a dog, and was grateful, for example, even though not apparent, that her greatest form of affection was simply to press up against us. It was the denning instinct in play, and we just let it happen without a lot of fanfare or dog talk and the like. Dogs also like consistency - so we took care to keep the environment in the room she most often slept in constant. It gave her a sense of comfort (Grandin has done an experiment where she put a briefcase (a briefcase!) in the middle of a bunch of cattle and recorded how much it distressed them). The point is that not all dog owners, especially ones that have been through a few, humanize their dogs in a selfish way.

I had a great trust relationship with my dog, and I miss her, but of course, I don't conflate that with any human relationships. Like anything else, you get out of what you put into it - and dogs can be rewarding.

You are a beta

...and your wife is simply demonstrating it.

She does not respect you in the slightest and maybe there is no reason to respect you anyway.