My wife bought a puppy without my prior agreement.

yes, sir... wrote:

if you really did take the puppy to the pound, you are an a$$. You know they could kill it if not adopted. Could you not wait to find another owner on your own? POS.

He didn't get the dog, his wife did.

He doesn't want another mangy dog in his house, so he did the responsible thing and turned it in to the people who handle this sort of thing. Would you rather he'd just dumped it out on the streets?

If his wife wants a dog, she should move out and get her own place.

Movietiquette wrote:

i think you have relationship issues that is most likely bigger than a new puppy. don't use this as an excuse to bang outside of your marriage.

use this as an excuse to bang outside of your marriage.

whining and complaining wrote:

yes, sir... wrote:

if you really did take the puppy to the pound, you are an a$$. You know they could kill it if not adopted. Could you not wait to find another owner on your own? POS.

He didn't get the dog, his wife did.

He doesn't want another mangy dog in his house, so he did the responsible thing and turned it in to the people who handle this sort of thing. Would you rather he'd just dumped it out on the streets?

If his wife wants a dog, she should move out and get her own place.

I'll take the dog in! (This story is about as real as I am.)

He should be a good steward and find the dog a new owner, not take it to the pound. People who have such little regard for animals are the lowest form of life. He also has such little regard for the wishes of his wife and kids. No wonder she doesn't give a $hit what he has to say.

whining and complaining wrote:

yes, sir... wrote:

if you really did take the puppy to the pound, you are an a$$. You know they could kill it if not adopted. Could you not wait to find another owner on your own? POS.

He didn't get the dog, his wife did.

He doesn't want another mangy dog in his house, so he did the responsible thing and turned it in to the people who handle this sort of thing. Would you rather he'd just dumped it out on the streets?

If his wife wants a dog, she should move out and get her own place.

He should be a good steward and find the dog a new owner, not take it to the pound. People who have such little regard for animals are the lowest form of life. He also has such little regard for the wishes of his wife and kids. No wonder she doesn't give a $hit what he has to say.

whining and complaining wrote:

yes, sir... wrote:

if you really did take the puppy to the pound, you are an a$$. You know they could kill it if not adopted. Could you not wait to find another owner on your own? POS.

He didn't get the dog, his wife did.

He doesn't want another mangy dog in his house, so he did the responsible thing and turned it in to the people who handle this sort of thing. Would you rather he'd just dumped it out on the streets?

If his wife wants a dog, she should move out and get her own place.

overstretched wrote:

Sorry, it has been a hell of a day. I decided to go home at lunch and return the dog. We aren't going to do this. I'm sorry, but this aggression will not stand, man. Anyway, I took it back to the owner and they would not accept the return so I took it to the pound. I told the kids after school and my wife is not talking to me right now. i am holding my ground on this one.

That's a tough situation. But I will say if it were me back when I was married (a long time ago) I would have done the same thing. The fact that she'd attempt what amounts to blackmail and clearly put me on the spot in front of my kids I wouldn't stand for it. Of course I'm not like most men. Respect still means something to me.

And your lady imo was totally disrepectful to you on this one. Whether she likes it or not. She's wrong and she even knows it but will never admit it. She rolled the dice and everyone lost.

really?????? wrote:

From experience, 2 dogs are easier than one. Dogs don't necessarily need your attention. They do need something to do. Your other dog can be helpful at training the puppy and will be good company for it as long as the old dog isn't territorial. The dog will be great at your place and you will bond with it and love it.

I've always bought them in pairs, too. They exercise each other better than I can. Plus it seems as soon as one figures out some trick or some rule, they both know it.

yes sir... wrote:

He should be a good steward and find the dog a new owner, not take it to the pound. People who have such little regard for animals are the lowest form of life. He also has such little regard for the wishes of his wife and kids. No wonder she doesn't give a $hit what he has to say.

Again, the OP didn't get the dog in the first place.

I think he was being overly generous to take it to the pound. That way if someone wants it, they can have it.

The guy's wife has issues, to bring a dog into the house when he already said that he didn't want one. I would never be in a relationship with someone like that.

Your wife put you in a no win conundrum. Your behavior was the same as your wife and didn't move the two of you toward better communication, consensus building and trust.

You are going to have to discuss your method of problem solving with your wife. You both were wrong (even though she started this particular issue)

Good luck.

Apigsheaven wrote:

Waster of time wrote:

Does she take it up the ass? Very important information before making up my mind.

Buddy, it was a harmless thread. Do you really feel a need to add your own brand of immaturity to it. If you dont like it a simple read and move on would a better approach. Your parents must be proud.

I'm older than you. And don't buddy me, pal.

Good, maybe you'll be gone soon.

overstretched wrote:

Yes- She hinted at her desire to get a second dog/puppy in the recent past. I made my opposition to the idea abundantly clear to her on many occasions. We already have a dog and it is difficult enough-and expensive- to care for it given that we are both working parents. I was in absolute shock when she came home yesterday with a new puppy. The kids are in heaven, but I feel like I have to return the dog out of fairness/kindness to the animal. There's no way we have the time or money to care for a second dog.

Thoughts?

If you're not trolling, that is a super bad thing for her to do.

My thoughts:

1) You have the money to care for a second dog. Dogs are not THAT expensive especially if you already have a situation that supports one dog (fenced yard for example). You might not want to pay for it, but you can make some sacrifices to feed a dog and take it to the vet once a year.

2) Your wife is showing ZERO respect here. My wife would never do that to me, and I would never do that to her, and I'm sure most married couples would not do that to each other. She is out of bounds on this one.

3) I don't think you can take the dog back. Yes it is a deserved response, and your wife has you over a barrel, but your kids will always think of you as the parent who gave their puppy away.

4) Regarding the TIME to take care of this new dog, guess who has the time? YOUR WIFE does. You get to not lift a finger to take care of this dog.

5) I hope you love her a lot, because that kind of thing is detrimental to a marriage. If you do and she's normally level headed, let this one go, but she should know she owes you big time. That thing you want her to do that she hasn't want to? Oh yeah, it's happening, and it's happening TODAY!

Conundrum wrote:

Your wife put you in a no win conundrum. Your behavior was the same as your wife and didn't move the two of you toward better communication, consensus building and trust.

You are going to have to discuss your method of problem solving with your wife. You both were wrong (even though she started this particular issue)

Good luck.

well said!

You must not be as good with marital advice as you are with financial advice. No worries, though. You can always use the extra dough on hookers, since you will never keep a wife happy.

I agree. The sad thing is the dog suffered. At the very least he needed to rehome the dog. Again, he never told us what type of dog.

Demand compensation in the form of a threesome with a person of your choosing.

Bring home a third dog tomorrow and see how she reacts if she is okay with it, bring home another woman if hse is okay with that well keep her.

I think I was wrong. While sitting down and discussing the decision to return the dog might be the mature course to take it might have been the wrong move. If you discussed it with her she would have pleaded to keep it and would have explained how hurt the kids would be if it was returned. If you acquiesced you would harbor anger and the situation.You brought the situation to an emotional nadir quickly which might motivate all parties to feel bad about the situation and to take steps to resolve issues. Its risky but as I'm rethinking it I don't think a sit down before you returned the dog to discuss it would work.

Conundrum wrote:

Your wife put you in a no win conundrum. Your behavior was the same as your wife and didn't move the two of you toward better communication, consensus building and trust.

You are going to have to discuss your method of problem solving with your wife. You both were wrong (even though she started this particular issue)

Good luck.

Do NOT take marriage advice from an "investment guru" who can't even calculate a return.