My wife bought a puppy without my prior agreement.

Just take the thing back, your wife is in the wrong for ignoring your opinion, especially when you already have a dog and can't afford another one. Your kids have to live with one dog. Good luck!

get rid of the bitch....keep the puppy

That is passive aggressive behavior on her part if you two talked about it and she went ahead to get a second dog behind your back when she knew you disapproved.

My dream is to have two dogs though - a goldie and bernese mountain. Ah, I'd be in heaven. But alas, it isn't the right time yet.

You two need to have an open convo about money if you haven't had one yet. It can be the top 3 biggest stressor in a marriage. My own personal advice on marriage and money - Both of you must have the same financial priorities (for large expenses) in the same order:

debt paid off

house

car

savings for family to live off of for 1 year

vacation/other

heavy retirement saving

And from there I think the best is to have a joint account for all bills/living expenses and then two separate fun accounts - one for you and one for her. In which you can each spend a little bit each month on purchases that you prefer to make. So he could want to spend his fun fund on his sporting events and she could spend it on a facial, for example.

Two income earners in the family and you can't afford a second dog? What the heck do you and your wife do for a living?

Maybe they have 9 kids? Pets can be brutally expensive unless you just put them down rather than treat any ailments.

I know someone with a 20 grand cat.

expensive? wrote:

Two income earners in the family and you can't afford a second dog? What the heck do you and your wife do for a living?

Kind of immaterial to the discussion.

Please, please ignore the hang the dog comment from the a-hole. The problem is that even though she was in the wrong you can't win by being a d*** back. Finding a way to get the family to agree to find the puppy a different good home would be ideal. Getting her to figure out ways to change her spending habits to help deal with the dog is slightly more likely. Being stuck with the puppy, sucking it up, and dealing with it is what almost undoubtedly happen.

Assuming the latter, your only recourse is to make sure the dog loves you most (well, maybe the kids) so it drives her nuts.

oh brother! hahaha :) watch - she's going to have another baby without telling him either! It's going to be...Bulgarian.

From experience, 2 dogs are easier than one. Dogs don't necessarily need your attention. They do need something to do. Your other dog can be helpful at training the puppy and will be good company for it as long as the old dog isn't territorial. The dog will be great at your place and you will bond with it and love it.

I agree!!! LOVe doggie. But moonpie, if you don't pick up your dog soon then it's going to find you and run onto the field to see you like a 2 year old about to pee. And then it will lick your face and sniff your crotch in front of everyone. And this will be your face.

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coach wrote:

get rid of the bitch....keep the puppy

you are not an alpha and the new puppy will not respect you. he will regard your wife as the alpha and treat you as a suboordinate in the pack.

What is wrong with you?

Get another job - there is another mouth in the house to feed now.

Keep the puppy. She has you by the balls, you know it, she knows it. If you try to mess with this she'll start doing others things without your prior agreement. And it wont be with dogs the next time.

OP: Does she hint at her desire to sleep with other men?

Before making any comments, I need to see pictures of both your wife and the dog.

For clarity purposes, be sure to label each.

overstretched wrote:

There's no way we have the time or money to care for a second dog.

Thoughts?

Time? I think a 2nd dog would take like zero time. Money? Yes.

I mean once it's past being a puppy. Having two dogs might be easier than one as they cna play with each other. Admittedly, I don't have a dog but have always asked friends that do - why don't you have two?

The issue is not whether you can afford the dog or whether it is fair to the other dog, the issue is that your wife totally dismissed any feelings that you had and made a unilateral decision.

I think you should be angered by this. She couldn't reach you by cell phone, it had to be bought immediately without talking to you about it.

Explain to her why she was wrong to get a dog without discussion and then you have decide whether you should have her take it back.

I hope she's damn good in bed because she seems like a lousy life partner.