Is it okay to ask the groom to pay for his bachelor party flight?

Why do you bother yourself with such nonsense? Wouldn't you rather just read a book?

Pay for his flight. Regardless of whether he had you buy your suits or not, it was your guys' idea to have the party in Vegas.

Dont be cheap and buy the guy his ticket. If he is a good buddy I am sure he will return the favor at your wedding

Was it his call (or the bride's) on wearing suits in the wedding?

Anyway, you get to keep the suit and can wear it again, so it doesn't seem like a huge deal. I'm not sure the etiquette on this sort of thing though (that is, whether wedding party should pay for their wedding attire). In the end, throwing a wedding costs a lot of money so I would probably cut him some slack.

take your share of his flight out of your wedding gift. Try to get everyone onside.

The only way I could even fathom asking the groom to pay for anything would be if he insisted on going to Vegas and insisted on one particular weekend and then tickets were crazy expensive that particular weekend and he knew it and insisted upon it anyway. Any other situation, especially one where you guys suggested Vegas and not him, and you must pay for every single dollar. He shouldn't break out his wallet except when he gets carded.

You invited him so you have to pay for it. If you couldn't afford it, you shouldn't have invited him or you should have made it clear that he had to pay his own way.

The groomsmen costs are excessive to my thinking but the solution in that case is to decline and say you can't afford what he's asking you to do.

If 8 guys can't cover the cost of one plane ticket, I'm curious as to how the rest of the night will go. I hear there's great keno at circus circus.

Groomzilla wrote:

You invited him so you have to pay for it. If you couldn't afford it, you shouldn't have invited him or you should have made it clear that he had to pay his own way.

This.

As for the suit, you presumably purchase suits occasionally anyway. So you aren't buying a suit when you otherwise would not have bought a suit. You're just buying your next suit earlier than you otherwise might have. As soon as the wedding is over, you can start wearing the suit to work.

The Best Man is in COMPLETE charge of the bachelor party. It is his responsibility to get the groom safely there and back.

If you guys agree to chip in that is fine but not expected.

Spearmint Hippo wrote:

If 8 guys can't cover the cost of one plane ticket, I'm curious as to how the rest of the night will go. I hear there's great keno at circus circus.

This

First of all, it is hilarious that you guys take your cues from Hollywood. Vegas!? How original. That being said, you sound like a good friend.

Have your buddies pay for the flight. If he insisted that you go somewhere, make him pay, but you guys invited him so just close the loop. Unless he made you buy a black suit or something, you'll wear it a lot.

Do this, tell him that this trip is going to be his wedding gift from y'all as well as his bachelor trip. He will be fine with that. His fiance will be fine, too. She isn't expecting you guys to get them anything nice anyway.

One word of advice: No issues with doing the stripper thing, etc. but don't take it too far. You know how in the movies when people screw up on the bachelor party (screw a stripper, etc.) and everything looks like it is going to be a disaster but then it is fine when they make it back to the wedding...? In real life it doesn't end after 2 hours and you could ruin his relationship, so be a real friend and make sure he doesn't get too drunk and do something too stupid.

1. He did you a favor having you buy a suit. A tux woulda been $100+ and you can't wear it again. If its even a moderately decent suit you'll have it for years. It's not like a bridesmaid's dress that is kinda limited in usage.

2. You picked Vegas, you guys cover it. If he'd forced it as the idea, that'd be a different story.

3. It's only $500 split eight ways. That's really not that expensive. Have a few less drinks and it'll cover itself.

waterbottle wrote:

Have a few less drinks and it'll cover itself.

Don't you mean "Have fewer drinks and it'll cover itself?"

Learn the damn language.

When I got married I paid for the wedding, the honeymoon, the rehearsal dinner, my own bachelor party, and tuxes for all my groomsman, my dad, and my wife's father.

I'm well aware of less vs. fewer, but while typing on my phone on four hours of sleep, it looks like I made a slight mistake. I'm sorry this renders my entire post difficult for you to understand.

I have been to vegas for 3 bachelor parties, and in all cases we payed for the grooms flight and hotel. Typically the best man pitched in a bit more of it than the rest of the party but we all contributed.

Once we got there, he was on his own. Obviously we bought him drinks, but for bottle service, dinners, etc he was expected to pay his share. And obviously we didn't pay for any gambling.

Groomzilla wrote:

You invited him so you have to pay for it. If you couldn't afford it, you shouldn't have invited him or you should have made it clear that he had to pay his own way.

The groomsmen costs are excessive to my thinking but the solution in that case is to decline and say you can't afford what he's asking you to do.

This is the right answer.

Lesson learned: buy your suit from JC Penney and return it after the wedding.