Hume's Fork wrote:
[quote]Guardian Ad Litem wrote:
All this Benjamin Spock bull-shit is what gave us Generaton Y: clueless about everything, come to work and expect to be entertained; they expect a new car, a $250k house, and all of it RIGHT NOW. Nevermind that their parents worked thirty years to get it. This indulgent parenting attitude is why everybody is entitled.
By consistently indulging our children, and trying to reason with them like little Socrateses we've created children that have a disconnect between action and reaction, cause and effect, and we've also destroyed the child's ability to delay gratification. A quick smack on the bottom gets the child's attention and lets the child know that there are consequences for their actions, and sometimes they are immediate.
In short, there is a loss of connection between action and consequences.
Your post is absolute gibberish.
Once again, for the reading impaired on this thread, no hitting does not equal no discipline. I have never hit my offspring, but I have most definitely disciplined to shape appropriate behavior.
I would not put up with a spoiled, self-indulgent young person in my home. Believe it or not, I, and many parents, have managed to raise hardworking, respectful kids without laying a hand on them.
My teenager is a self-motivated, multi-sport varsity athlete who earns fantastic grades and is excited about the future and her place in the world. She works hard and earns what she gets. We have a great relationship
based on mutual respect and trust.
I grew up in a home where children were hit/disciplined, so I can say that my experience both personally and professionally is that your kid will have a better shot at success in life if you discipline without corporal punishment. And you won't get tossed in jail. Win, win.