Guys that cheated on your wives....do you regret it?

igotoneforyou wrote:

Don't cheat. I've.been married for almost 22 years, and still take my cows as seriously as I did on our wedding day. I am also the child of a relationship in which my dad cheated on my mom with a younger woman. It caused all kinds of grief and pain for a lot of people, and the pain continues today in various ways. Not worth it, especially if you have kids. Talk things over with your wife and be a real man.

*Vows, lol

Bands a make hoes dance wrote:

Just know that if you have one or more kids that are under 18, you are not just cheating on your spouse, you are cheating on your kids. That is scum level stuff.

Also think about the impact you're having on other guys. There's already a shortage of datable women out there for nice single guys who are just trying to find companionship and love. When you're taking two women for yourself you're just making the situation even worse for guys who don't have any.

My dh cheated. It’s more common than you think, especially with guys who travel for work.

The end result was a disaster. Other woman threatened to expose everything. DH resigned from his job and eventually found a similar but lower paying one. And then we got to spend thousands on marriage counseling.

Also, she wasn’t that cute and I could beat her by about 5 minutes in a 5k ?

CaptainPhillips wrote:

I'm not saying she needs to be there to constantly give me sex when I need it, but how long do you really think I should go? Just sit there and wait? Likewise, if I constantly ignored her, stayed out late after work and didn't attempt to listen to her emotional needs, I wouldn't be surprised if she looked for that attention elsewhere as well.

She either doesn't think she's gonna lose you from not having sex with you, or doesn't care that much. A touch of jealousy couldn't hurt. Just a little bit. We all like to feel like we won our partner. You want a woman that other guys want, but you got. It goes both ways.

It is scummy to cheat. Cheating is using the benefits of being single while simultaneously using the benefits of a relationship. You are not entitled to both at the same time yet so many people seek both at the same time. Hurting another person, especially of you have a child under the age of 18 is the utmost example of selfishness. You are cheating on your kid if you do this.

Trying to justify cheating is so lame. You know, excuses like, "he/she's acting this or that way." Then breakup or work things out if you're full of excuses.

So easy to cheat these days with technology, texting and the internet make it easy as ever. You can cheat with someone you've never even met if you want.

What I really don't get is these cheaters who are projecting, calling SINGLE people whores and players, when they are 10 times worse for cheating while in a relationship. The cheaters need to look in the mirror and take some damn accountability, but it's no surprise most cant because theyre generally trash humans to begin with.

One of the first posts I've completely agreed with you on. People should just break it off if they're going to cheat.

I've been married for 26 years and we dated two years.

Two years ago I was really close to cheating, she was in a rough relationship with her husband and I was going thru some crap. She is 25 years younger.

She is beautiful and we connected deeply, luckily I was in therapy and the counselor was blunt and told me straight up I'd ruin my life and hers.

I backed off and so did she.

Then as it goes in small towns my wife and her became friendly and she asked my wife if it would be ok if she asked me to talk with her husband who she had tossed out of home.

I met with him and we talked once a week for a month or two and I passed the name of my counselor to him and he got help and they have a great relationship as do my wife and I.

I worked even harder in therapy and am so grateful that I did not act on my natural selfish desire.

Thankful and grateful nothing happened physically.

I can't judge cheaters. You can love someone, care about them and share 1000 commonalities that bring you together, but then you are supposed to dump that person over item #1001? (Item 1001 being sex.)

A full month? That's about 25 days too far. Once a week isn't really cutting it either.

Have the talk, "get your sh!t together or I'm out!"

I did when I was young and dumb. Regret it? Absolutely! Wish I could go back and resist this time.

This is very serious and it's said there seems to be some kind of bro code that men are supposed to keep it between themselves if it's know. I say this because this at sometimes at the root of serious problems in society--because if the impact on children and families. That's all that needs to be said really.

Dysfunctional families, dysfunctional people, mental health issues, criminality, anger issues, substance abuse, poverty...pain and suffering.....and it cycles again onto the next generation, all for some stupid, f'ing, c****** bro code. Yeh, real manly, real responsible.

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It me wrote:

My dh cheated. It’s more common than you think, especially with guys who travel for work.

The end result was a disaster. Other woman threatened to expose everything. DH resigned from his job and eventually found a similar but lower paying one. And then we got to spend thousands on marriage counseling.

Also, she wasn’t that cute and I could beat her by about 5 minutes in a 5k ?

Some guys go for ugly girl because they're easy and grateful, and because of that will do anything...

Whenever I see a good looking guy with a real plain girl I always think of pegging...

Your Dad wrote:

Be a man. Don't cheat and give your marriage your best day in day out.

This is as simple as it is, be respectful to your wife, cheating on her does the opposite. DON'T DO IT

I actually agree with you

Well.....there is no need for another woman sexually if you are married and both functions normal.

There is only a need to renew sexuality and talk to each other about unlived sex dreams and so on.

There are thousands of things you can do to boost and set your sexuality on fire again.

Cheating is the same as giving up a relation and one of the worst thing you can do . It`s nothing wrong

in looking at other sexy women, it's natural, but to cheat your wife with some of them is really a big mistake.

I use to say.....get some more appetite outside, but eat at home.