Spousal weight gain

i'll repeat the obvious answer

engage in fitness activities with her and tell her how much you like spending time with her doing said activities. after a few weeks, begin commenting on how good she looks. done.

Reality Bath wrote:

Tried it wrote:

I now date a professional runner.

Problem solved.... now any advice for dating a girl who can be compulsive and batshit crazy sometimes?

I'm calling you on this one. Your use of the qualifier "sometimes" means she's upper club level at best.

Haha! Zinged!

penached wrote:

Just leave this thread up on the computer screen at home.

outstanding

I understand wrote:

Funny all of my girlfriends are in great shape. It is their husbands who are all balding with huge guts. What is also funny, is that while women seem to lose self esteem and confidence when they gain weight, men seem to think they are still babe magnets.

As long as they continue to earn the same salary, aren't they? I mean, let's be honest here; being physically appealing is at best 25% of what makes a man appealing in general to a woman. If he drops from a 7 to a 5, what of it?

inside your mind wrote:

^^^translation: boney, anorexic runner girl with compulsive dieting habits.

I think most men, even here on a running site, will agree with me; HELL NO to THAT!

Christopher Poole wrote:

As long as they continue to earn the same salary, aren't they? I mean, let's be honest here; being physically appealing is at best 25% of what makes a man appealing in general to a woman. If he drops from a 7 to a 5, what of it?

This is actually very true. I am a very affluent member of society and I maintain my high level of fitness. I am posting anonymously b/c I know that I sound like a pompous ass, so please refrain from calling me out. I am only trying to share my experience...

I have a lot of friends who would be considered disgusting by most women, but they are wealthy. Some through their own means but mostly through family money. We are talking fat, hairy, bald, etc. We are not old either, 30s and 40s. Anyway, most have very attractive wives that don't need even the money (independently wealthy), so that makes it even more confusing.

Because I run, I also have a lot of fit friends through running. I am in a medium sized Southern town (you know it), and my social circles will often collide. I find it extremely interesting that the good looking ladies always want to hang out with the ugly, fat guys over my runner friends. Ugly fat (but wealthy and affluent) guys get drunk and act stupid but it is "cute" to the ladies.

This even goes for single girls talking about married men. Class is SO much more important to women than looks, it is incredible to see it in action.

I got lucky because I have a wife who loves to work out. She appreciates fitness and complements me on rare occasions. This keeps our sex life fairly active (yes, I too get the post-nuptial shut off from time-to-time). That said, she also likes my affluent friends more than my runner friends. She isn't a money-hungry bitch, it is almost like she trusts them more or something.

Very hard to explain.

I would love to hear some of the women on this forum address this candidly, even under an anonymous handle so they can speak freely.