How to disappear ???

wake up, use the loo, get a sip of water, put on shoes, open door.

Don't look back.

If you have 30 grand it sounds pretty simple.

But you will eventually need an ID to get an apartment car etc.

You can hire consultant to wipe out your life and even provide fake leads for people looking after you.

Dude, just take some of that 30k and pay off the car. That way wou will have a place to sleep. I would keep the other 28.5k in cash. Much easier to be anonymous with cash.

There's a guy out there who may be able to help you. His name is Kip Litton. He knows how to stay under the radar, while at the same time leading a public life.

Why did you quit the "good" job? Why did you apply to these other places? Why did you turn down the offer? What do you want to do (be broad, or specific)? Why do care so much about what your hometown thinks of you? Do you care about them? But not enough to stay?

Short stories are nice, but this one needs some more details. Especially along the lines of: "What do you want?"

Don't be surprised if the problems you are trying to run away from end up coming with you no matter where you go...

Go to Newfoundland Canada.

Why did I quit a good job? I hated my boss and was tired of working 100 hours a week while those around me worked 40. I kept a company afloat, but holding up the ship was drowning me.

Why did I apply to these other places? 2 were close to where I am from and were good companies. One was with a great company, but the job I applied for was in one city and they offered me a job in another place. I didn't want to live in the other place.

Why did I turn down the offer? Read above

What do I want to do? I have no idea anymore. Sales is what I have made my money doing. I want to work for a company that their can be movement in and the big thing is I want to like the people I work with. I don't mind long hours or working weekends.

Why do I care what my hometown thinks? I went away on a scholarship and never came back. I got a job that people bragged on me and made them proud. I am embarrassed at what I am right now. I feel like a leach on my parents, and being asked by everyone "How the job hunt is going?" Kills me. I have never failed at anything in my life. This was the first time I had ever not offered a job after an interview. Failure sucks. I feel like I am bringing those around me down because I am in a bad mood a lot. There is more to the story, but it will sound even crazier.

readytogo wrote:

There is more to the story, but it will sound even crazier.

Fill us in, maybe you'll get some good advice. You might even find others here have been through the same thing. No one knows who you are, and if anyone figures it out you can always just disappear.

Kind of sad that you have been to college and had a job (while apparently making good money) and still don't have your own personal bank account. I'm pretty sure that's where I would start.

Thanks for answering. Sounds like you need to figure out what you want. Once you do that, I bet attaining it won't be that hard (you sound able to succeed: college, most job interviews, etc).

My vote is to take that car, and your 30k and explore the country (or world if you please). You can live of 30k for a long time while searching.

And don't be ashamed of temporarily not having a job. Be proud that you are willing to spend time actually finding something worthwhile to do with your life.

And I wouldn't mind hearing the "crazier" part.

First, go look up these words in the dictionary: there, their.

Next, read "Into the wild" by Krakeuer. Then you'll know not to do what that dumbass did. Or if you are illiterate (which is suspect), you can watch the movie.

After that, grow a pair of gonads. If the $30k is actually yours you have plenty of money to live for many months including buying a car, getting an apartment, getting your own bank account, etc. Move wherever the hell you want to be, get a job good enough to pay the bills and figure out where you are going.

My guess is, however, that the reason the bank account is joint is that it is daddy's money. If so, you still need to grow a pair of gonads and do something for yourself. Because, yes, you are a failure sponging off of mommy and daddy when you ought to be supporting yourself.

Is that you Ben? No it's not cos he has a paid off car.

He had the 30K though. Lost his job in a big shuffle a year ago. Moved back home and jobs are hard to come by.

Went to Thailand and volunteered, drove from Darwin to Perth.

Now back home and I wish he could find work, because I know he feels exactly like you do.

My advice.

Stay at home because I am sure your folks will do what ever they can to help you. It costs nothing like sleeping on a couch.

Stay at home. Work on a plan for your future. If it's elsewhere, decide where that is before you chase it.

It's tough right now, and I am sure it'll work out eventually. But you need to dig deep and be patient. Stop worrying about how people feel about you. No one feels less of you. That's all in your head. Leaving home won't help - unless you leave your head there.

Good luck. There are hundreds or thousands out there feeling just like you.

Move to South East Asia and teach English for a couple years. If you have a college degree you can literally just get on a plan and go to a country and get a job.

Were you selling cable door to door?

While you're looking up "there" and "their" in the dictionary, look up "leech" as well....Jesus..instead of disappearing, enroll in an English course or two.

go to Aspen Co. for a few mos. During the summer it's really easy to get a job waiting tables or at a hotel and you can make alot in tips. The economy there is ENTIRELY tourism based. Billionaires go there for vacations and as a result lots of the restaurants, hotels, shops, etc. cater to that kind of crowd. But they only tend to go there during the summer (June through September) and the winter Spring is coming up so you won't be able to find a job for a while but should be able to get something lined up for the busy season(as the locals call it)

Go there pitch a tent somewhere outside the city enjoy the scenery for a little bit. Talk to bartenders about potential Job leads. You will meet influential people while you are there. Maybe something in the future will come of it. When I did it I met Colin Powell, ran across the Dalai Lama, And worked for a billionaire with an extensive wine collection. Also it's a small town surrounded by mountains.

Good luck

You guys are hitting me on spelling, but missed so many grammar mistakes and words that were just left out of sentences. That being said, I'm not proof reading, and won't. Just seeing if anyone has ever just gone.

Why my dad has access to my bank account and credit cards? He is an accountant and finical planner. My money has made money while I don't have a job.

30k is liquid assets, there is more, but I feel like my parents should have the rest for putting up with me. I made all the money that is liquid.

As for the extra stuff, I had a girlfriend till last night. I pushed her away so she wouldn't have to be with a guy who isn't going anywhere. She is from a great family and I cannot provide for her right now like I should. It was a very serious relationship as it was one of the main reasons I left my other job (So I could spend more time making a family).

I know disappearing is selfish and that I am being very selfish at the moment. I know people are going to flip out when I'm not there one day. This is the only thing I see working. I came to Letsrun for 2 reasons, 1 hoping someone else had done this and 2 to get it off my chest.

readytogo wrote:

She is from a great family and I cannot provide for her right now like I should.

What? Provide her what? Unless you are referring to something outside of finances.

You sound seriously whipped. Parents and ex-girlfriend. I am almost feeling troll