Bar hopping alone ?

I can't see hitting a club by myself but a bar, sure. You don't have to be like those "Night at the Roxy" guys. Give me a good bar and a TV and I'm all set. Order dinner, watch the game whatever.

Go for it. Sit at the bar. Have a drink. Watch some sports or something. You will make friends. Bring a notebook and do some work if it is slow. Just be yourself.

I can't believe some people never go out anywhere alone.

Depends on your age.

Javelina Lover wrote:

Depends on your age.

i'm 28. It's kind of uncharted waters because i usually go out in a group or with a date. Never alone.

BarHipHop wrote:

Go for it. Sit at the bar. Have a drink. Watch some sports or something. You will make friends. Bring a notebook and do some work if it is slow. Just be yourself.

I can't believe some people never go out anywhere alone.

And I can't believe there are 48 year-old guys with wives and 4 kids at home "bopping" around NYC at 2:00 am looking for a hook-up.

If the OP is single and under 35, no problem. If older and sporting a wedding band, very creepy.

Seriously just do it. You will be fine. Maybe it's me, but my chances of getting laid/making new friends is way higher when I go out solo. And it's not like I'm that cool or anything.

Tips: get a bar seat where you can watch the door. Make eye contact with everyone who walks in.

Going out to the bar by yourself really isn't as big a deal as people might think.. at least as a guy. I have done it a few times, and it almost always works well.

I don't know what your goal is but i'm 25 and I often like to move around and meet people (women) in the bar.

I think about it this way: When i go out with a group of people i almost always have to take a few steps away from my group and toward the woman i want to talk to to make the approach. Even with friends there you often have to fly solo to make a move. Most of the time people will just assume your friends are also in the bar, and you just came over to talk to them.. I have gone along with this before saying "oh yea, i'm not sure where they went off to.. i hope they didnt leave without me hahaha" So once you have approached in my opinion you are basically in the same position you would be in if you had come with friends. Ultimately you were going to be ditching your friends and talking someone else anyway if you manage to hit it off with someone.

the only disadvantage is that to have a successful approach to a woman its helpful if you have been making eye contact with them before.. and not just eye contact, you have to do it long enough that they kind of give you an invite to talk with their eyes or they walk past you for you to approach. its always better if you can wait for them to decide to give you the go ahead, than just approaching out of nowhere. it makes the dynamic different. and so in this scenario its good to have guys (women friends sometimes better) standing with you so you can be casually looking around.

still i have successful made eyes with ppl when i was alone at the bar. in this case i still dont think its that obvious you are there alone or a creeper. so go after it..

disclaimer: this is all advice for bars. i dont have a sense for how clubs work.. but if you are at least near the bar in a club rather than just wandering around the dance floor, you should be able to apply the same tricks.

best of luck

Get a hooker. Save money

Rocket Science?

Javelina Lover wrote:

If the OP is single and under 35, no problem. If older and sporting a wedding band, very creepy.

I'm pretty sure that 28 counts as under 35.

28<35 wrote:

I'm pretty sure that 28 counts as under 35.

Indeed it does, Einstein. The OP posted his age while I was composing my post...

Are you kidding me? You never gone out by yourself? Quit being a pussy. Just do it.

If I was somewhere I didn't know anybody, I would think nothing of going solo. But if their is a potential you know a lot of ppl and they are there as a group it might be weird. You might feel like something of an outcast bc nobody invited you.

theretiredrunner wrote:

If I was somewhere I didn't know anybody, I would think nothing of going solo. But if their is a potential you know a lot of ppl and they are there as a group it might be weird. You might feel like something of an outcast bc nobody invited you.

Good point.. i would only do this where i wouldnt run into other people i knew... then i might seem weird you went out by yourself... unless it is a place where you often run into people you know and it just seems like a place where everyone meets up. but you're in another city so doesnt apply

Coorsfield wrote:

Rocket Science?

i wish. my percentages would be higher if it was as predictable as rocket science.

Depends on the bar/night. Weekends might be awkward since most people go in groups. You can get a sense of what the atmosphere is like pretty quickly. You'll only look like a creep if you just post up against a wall with a beer in your hand and just stare at people.

Yeah, it's not a big deal. I tended bar in downtown Atlanta for years. Guess what everybody else who is in town on business is doing? Also going out to the bars.

Dude asks about "hitting the bar/club scene," and titles the thread "Bar hopping along" and people say, Go ahead, sit at the bar, watch the game and have dinner. Perhaps not what he has in mind?

alone. not along. and I don't even drink anymore...