Survey: How many of you married men or women have/ had affairs?

happily married wrote:

If my wife went to a male strip club and played with and sucked another guy's cock, I wouldn't mind. That would be ... what I do.

O-kay boss.

Urine Idiot wrote:

happily married wrote:

1 blowjob from a hooker in a bar

She was a tranny.

Perhaps, but I don't care, it was a great blowjob and she looked like a real slut (i.e. wouldn't want to be seen walking around with her).

happily married wrote:

open relationship? wrote:

And what if you found out that your wife was getting her itch scratched by other guys? Would you be upset?

No. What I don't know won't hurt me. The same goes in reverse.

What if you find out she's getting it on the side or vice versa? It's ok until someone gets caught?

I agree with the poster that said cheating is both selfish and weak. And before someone goes there, my views aren't based on religion or a "higher court." It's about trust, honesty, and integrity. I'm guessing all of you that cheat would throw a fit if you found out your wife was "getting some on the side." Heck, for all you know, maybe she's already looking elsewhere for someone to meet her needs.

This thread has destroyed my confidence in men.

a woman lurker wrote:

This thread has destroyed my confidence in men.

You had confidence in men?!?

Bahahahahahahaha!!!

happily married wrote:

I believe it is biological for men to want to be with multiple women (spread their seed so to speak).

You're looking for rationalizations to act how you want. Selfishness, overeating and lots of other things have a "biological basis" but that's hardly a reason to act upon them in your shoulder-shrugging way.

happily married wrote:

Happily married 15 years, 4 kids, decent sex life.

1 b******* from a hooker in a bar

5 or 6 hand jobs from strippers

I don't consider this cheating, but I don't tell my wife about it either.

Great marriage, no need to divorce, 4 young kids, happy at home, good sex (i.e. oral/anal) at least once a week. But every once in a while an opportunity presents it self and I have to scratch that itch.

Seriously, strippers and hookers? Nasty. Also, would you mind if your wife was being provided oral sex from male strippers?

a woman lurker wrote:

This thread has destroyed my confidence in men.

At my wife's holiday party last month, her friend/co-worker went missing at the hotel where the party was being held. My wife went into the ladies room looking for her, where she found her friend having sex with another (male) coworker in a stall.

So, we have a married woman having drunken sex with some guy in a hotel bathroom while the husband was at home watching their sick kids. Classy.

meanwhile, your wife is banging dudes while you're out.

This thread has made me 1) appreciate my amazing and loyal husband even more, and 2) feel very sad that (some) men claim to be happily married, and yet value their marriage (and family life) so little that they would risk everything for a hand-job from a ho-bag. It just seems really pathetic.

What is amazing is if you look at the stats women are damn near as bad as me. They are just sneakier about it and don't get caught as often.

I don't understand it. If I will simply get divorced before I cheat.

As bad as "men". Not "me". Lol.

I'm sure that's true, and I find it to be equally pathetic. I just don't understand how you could do that to someone you love, when there IS an out - divorce.

La Banger wrote:

I've had 6 encounters during my 12 years of marriage. Mostly because the wife doesn't put out, won't do things I like, or my own curiosities. Don't ever do it with someone you know well( coworker ). Never do it at home. I dont regret it. I only see the encounters as pure lust and nothing more. Guilty, sure. But so is my wife for not doing her part. And nobody get started on why I'm a bad husband...I did my part by telling her my desires and feelings, it was up to her to follow through.

You honestly think your wife won't put out just because? It's not hard to get your wife to sleep with you, it just takes some work on your part. Do something she wants you to do, or take her out to dinner etc. You've made the mistake of just saying "hey this is want I, I did my part by telling you". Being married doesn't automatically mean, as a guy, you get sex whenever you want it.

You need to change your way of thinking from this:

"wife doesn't put out, won't do things I like"

"Guilty, sure. But so is my wife for not doing her part"

"I did my part by telling her my desires and feelings, it was up to her to follow through"

To:

I'm not doing my part, so that's why I'm not getting laid.

Try it. Try thinking about your wife before yourself and see if it doesn't get you laid more. A marriage with no sex is a bad one.

humans. are. not. designed. to. be. monogamous. end of thread.

adsfkjlasd wrote:

This thread has made me 1) appreciate my amazing and loyal husband even more, and 2) feel very sad that (some) men claim to be happily married, and yet value their marriage (and family life) so little that they would risk everything for a hand-job from a ho-bag. It just seems really pathetic.

Your husband is probably balls deep in some Phillipino hooker as we speak.

I'm hoping the response bias is making this look worse than it is, with those who think marriage and trust mean something choosing to just flip by this thread. But perhaps not.

Anyways, add me to the side of: you got married, and unless you discussed having an open marriage, monogamy is sort of implied. If not the thing for you, fine, get a divorce.

And for those who've discussed all the happy adventures that are not cheating (bj, handjob, etc): allow me to add the perspective of an infectious diseases specialist:

-condoms break. Even if they don't, non-covered skin can easily be infected by herpes, human papilloma virus (HPV), & syphilis, less easliy by many others. When your wife is discovered to have early cervical cancer (caused by certain strains of HPV) you may feel a bit of guilt. Especially if she is being screened less than annually, being under the mistaken impression that she's in a monogamous relationship.

But hey, that's ok, it's just your wife and mother of your children. Carry on...

adsfkjlasd wrote:

This thread has made me 1) appreciate my amazing and loyal husband even more, and 2) feel very sad that (some) men claim to be happily married, and yet value their marriage (and family life) so little that they would risk everything for a hand-job from a ho-bag. It just seems really pathetic.

There are plenty of men who are happily faithful. This thread is full of trolls, don't worry.

Most of the people on here who write things about how monogamy is foolish are just lonely nerds who wouldn't know what it felt like to love/be loved.

I will say this though:

About 5 years ago I was at a bachelor party and the guys decided to get strippers. There were about 12 guys and two strippers. We had them to the hotel where we were staying, and part of the show involved things like oral sex (both on the strippers and on the guys). I was a little shocked, actually. Apparently that is rather normal.

I chose to "opt out" of that part, but was surprised that a lot of the married guys I was with didn't opt out.

Actually, they didn't even think it was a big deal. None of these guys would likely have given oral sex to another woman socially, but had no problems doing it to the stripper.

Weird.

bootsie wrote:

humans. are. not. designed. to. be. monogamous. end of thread.

then. don't. get. married.