Survey: How many of you married men or women have/ had affairs?

You and I aren't wired the same then but no two people are.

happily married wrote:

A BJ from my wife is fine (never to completion though), but a BJ from a hooker is a real turn on. It's dirty and illegal. Same with handjobs from strippers.

Also, I should say that after being with the same woman for 20 years (met her in college) variety is the spice of life.

As a fine upstanding citizen, family man, living in the suburbs, respected in my job and community, doing something a little illegal is exciting. It's an itch I scratch a few times a year.

An emotional affair (with a real woman) is more a violation of your marriage vows that a little head or rub from a stranger.

I've seen friends' marriages destroyed by affairs. Mine is perfect (from outside and inside), I have no desire to have an affair, I love my wife, I love my family.

There is only one woman in the world who I was able to dupe into a relationship with me. Fortunately, I was able to marry her. All the other women are completely turned off by my boney runner frame and typical runner inability to socially commingle with normal society.

If you feel the need to stray, you shouldn't be married to begin with. And it's not just your wife you're hurting. You have to live with the guilt and the inevitable karmic retribution. Just remember, there's a higher court. Real men don't cheat.

Sagarin wrote:

... Real men don't cheat.

"Cheat"? WTF? Is this some children's board game? What an infantile term!

How do you guys that 'get a little on the side' feel about your wives doing the same?

Say Word wrote:

I was nailing a married woman for a few weeks last spring. Her husband was a cop. My advice? Don't bang someone whose significant other carries a gun.

Apparently in FL, that can be more than a cop.

Precious Roy wrote:

There is only one woman in the world who I was able to dupe into a relationship with me. Fortunately, I was able to marry her. All the other women are completely turned off by my boney runner frame and typical runner inability to socially commingle with normal society.

Precious Roy, you sound adorable. Your wife is a lucky woman:)

I have been married for 19 years. I think the key to 'getting some on the side' is the manner in which you 'get it'. Sure I have cheated but I ALWAYS do the tramps from behind. This makes it less personal and keeps me in the clear.

I'd imagine that the Letsrun crowd would skew more faithful than the average population because, as Adam Sandler said in Funny People, "It's easy not to cheat when no one wants to f*ck you".

I'm in my early 40's, married for 12 years, with kids. Very happy guy. Never once strayed, mostly due to the values and integrity instilled in me by my father, a retired high-ranking military officer. Duty, honor, country!

Here's a twist: I just found out recently that my dad has been a serial philanderer for many years. Apparently my mom has known, or been suspicious, but lived in denial. There's even a half-Vietnamese woman who has been calling him claiming he's her dad!

What a nightmare this has been.

Precious Roy wrote:

There is only one woman in the world who I was able to dupe into a relationship with me. Fortunately, I was able to marry her. All the other women are completely turned off by my boney runner frame and typical runner inability to socially commingle with normal society.

you must not have any cash. gotta pay to play.

I've been married for 15 years. I've never had intercourse with another woman in that period of time. I have received b*******s from a few women during those years. The most recent was about a year ago.

happily married wrote:

1 blowjob from a hooker in a bar

She was a tranny.

happily married wrote:

Happily married 15 years, 4 kids, decent sex life.

1 b******* from a hooker in a bar

5 or 6 hand jobs from strippers

I don't consider this cheating, but I don't tell my wife about it either.

Great marriage, no need to divorce, 4 young kids, happy at home, good sex (i.e. oral/anal) at least once a week. But every once in a while an opportunity presents it self and I have to scratch that itch.

And what if you found out that your wife was getting her itch scratched by other guys? Would you be upset?

Flagpole has it right this time.

When I was four years old I was woken up by a very loud argument going on in the kitchen. I went over to the railing but was afraid to go downstairs. I could see them clearly but they were too involved to notice me, scared shitless, holding my breath. Up till then my young life (remember I was four, not 16 when I could better handle it) had been fairly idyllic. But there it was...ugly reality.

Both of my parents were crying their eyes out and my mom was screaming in a terrifying pitch at my father. He had been cheating on her and she found out. I'd never seen him cry like a baby before or since. I never told them I saw this unfold but as a four-year-old it was very traumatic.

I love both of my (long since divorced) parents, however I would never EVER cheat on a woman. If it isn't working you say, "honey, I'm sorry this isn't working out so we should either work this out or end it." We all make mistakes in life, but you "cheaters" are selfish and weak. It affects more than you and your wife, especially if you have kids.

PS: I am single and over 40. This did not help my outlook on relationships. Don get caught, assholes.

Sagarin wrote:

Just remember, there's a higher court

Sorry, I don't believe in your magical fairy creatures that judge you after you die and decide if you are worthy of heaven.

open relationship? wrote:

And what if you found out that your wife was getting her itch scratched by other guys? Would you be upset?

No. What I don't know won't hurt me. The same goes in reverse.