My sort-of girlfriend has been texting another guy even when she is at my place, or when I am at hers, but saying she wasn't. She usually turns off her phone when done, but a few times she has forgotten and set it down even with the text part open. It turns off by itself fairly quickly. But, I have had enough time to get a few glances and was not happy with what I saw.
A couple weeks ago she texted the other guy and said that she missed him. This was on a day that we were hanging out all day supposedly having a good time. That hurt. I also once saw a text that showed she had been at his place when she had told me she was somewhere else.
But, other than that, mostly it's not the content, it's the fact that I know she is lying to me about who she is texting.
The underlying story is complicated. She has told me about how she is confused between me and the guy so she isn't lying there. But, she says she doesn't think about him when with me. Clearly she is.
I am trying to be patient because I think she will eventually get over this guy, but the lying bugs me. I then sort of sideways try to talk to her about it and our situation which only backfires. I have never been the jealous, suspicious type but I'm starting to act like it here.
I know it's unethical on my part to even quickly skim what's on the screen and I have recently stopped. I also want to be honest and tell her everything about this. If I confront her and tell her everything, could I get in any sort of legal trouble?