I just found out she isn't a virgin. She told me she wanted to wait until we were married, but I found out via an old letter she kept in a box that she isn't a virgin. What should I do? We've been together almost 2 years, and I felt like proposing to her this year. Now I feel like dying.
Only if you are a virgin.
She said she wanted to wait until you were married. That doesn't mean she is a virgin. She may have been a super freak before she met you and went all born again when she realized she was a skank. As long as she didn't get any while she was with you, what's the problem? And what is so great about a virgin? You will find it preferrable to have a mate that has some training in the sack.
Lying about this is HUGE. I'd advise against marriage.
use it to pressure her into giving you some. if she still doesn't put out, dump her
Dump her immediately!!!
Also, please have her call me. Thanks
I had a girlfriend in college that said she was a virgin. After much persuasion we drove out of town and got a hotel room. She gave it up to me then afterwards told me that was much better than her first time back in high school.
I got dressed got in the car and left with the lying whore still laying on the bed.
@ OP
Well obviously she should bury her chest high and stone her to death. After all virginity is everything! Good god, she's contaminated! Ever wonder how many men your mother slept with before she met your father? These are questions to ask yourself.
On a more serious note, I cannot think of anything duller than a virgin. It must be a great high for a Taliban to have one but not for me. Poor performance is what you get from that recipe. You aren't Taliban are you? Just checking.
In any case, little experienced is okay since you can train a girl if she's down for it, and she can train you, but totally inexperienced, snore, zzzzzzz.
Hate to break it to you but here's some late breaking news for you:
EVERYONE lies about sex to get what they want.
Everyone.
Now please grow up.
A woman and I were dating in our early 20's.
One night in the back of my car at the movies, she told me she was a virgin. I responded that I wouldn't hold it against her.
We continued on and it was quite a hot relationship for four years.
You should stop reading old letters she keeps in a box unless she tells you it's OK. They're old letters. What business are they of yours?
I think she's really a virgin. Everyone know that virgins don't lie.
XCZ wrote:
Lying about this is HUGE. I'd advise against marriage.
According to the OP's post there is no lying. She said that she wanted to wait until marriage. She did NOT say she was a virgin and wanted to wait.
That said, the OP should quit snooping around her shit.
Hey OP sorry to hear this is bothering you. But this letter that you found. How did you find it. Were you snooping through her stuff? This whole thing raises a bunch of red flags on both sides.
Red Flags for you
She lied to you about something big
She kept an old letter to an ex about having sex
Red flags for her
You went snooping through her stuff
You solicited advice as to whether or not to marry her on letsrun
Before I can give advice I need to know how you found these letters. Thanks and good luck
-Stuck
Dude. 2 years together and you haven't had sex?
You'd better be in high school- maybe college, but WTF!!!!????
thejets wrote:
I found out via an old letter she kept in a box that she isn't a virgin
Is she from the 18th century?
Oh come on. Who gives a shit if she lied about being a virgin? I don't see why this is a big deal. Being honest here. All this means is that
a.) she regrets it, or
b.) thinks you would hold it against her/that you want her to be a virgin.
As strange as it is, there is still some social stigma against sex, and that's probably all that this is.
stuck with match.com wrote:
as to whether or not to marry her on letsrun
Before I can give advice I need to know how you found these letters. Thanks and good luck
-Stuck
No stuck...actually you dont need to know anything...in fact how he got the letters has no impact on what HE should do. we are not trying to help him decide if how he found out was ethical or not. We are here to advise him on what he should do next. It's "heres the problem, what do I do" not "heres the problem, heres how I got to it"
my advice: if your thinking about marrying her...call her out on it.. straight up. if she asks how you found out, make her tell you first why she didnt tell you for so long and more importantly why the FFUUUCCCK she lied to you.
Another LetsRun classic- this place never fails to disappoint.
Quick question: How the hell do you know, based just on this letter (letters) that she is not still a virgin? Girls (and boys) have a way of embellishing these things. You can't tell based just on what he or she wrote.
Chances are good she still is, and of course if you stick with her you'll find out for sure on the "big" day.
Hell I'd break up with her if she told me she was a virgin, whether she was lying or not.