Should I profess my love and admiration to a girl I know?

obviously you are a pussie because you are asking for love advice on letsrun... so the answer is clear... don't say anything because you are a pussie and hot chicks don't want a pussie

How's that tube sock treatin' ya?

You will be looked at like a creep if your not already looked at as one by her. don't do it you f***...geez ppl really need to have common sense with girls. It's all about the game. You obviuos know you don't have a shot. So don't say anything and dig yourself into a deeper hole. What's the point of telling her that if she not interested in you and out of your league. Your gonna be that looser kid you see in disney movies.... f***.

Listen to me because I am going to give you the only advice that you will be offered here that gives you any chance of future success with this girl.

If you have any basis for a friendship with this girl, hang on to that (but not obsessively!). If you can casually get an e-mail address from her before she leaves, do that. Then stay in contact (but not too often), but only for as long as she seems genuniely interested in what you have to say and responds accordingly. Who knows? If you play it cool, and I mean really cool, not faking it (which requires you to actually BE cool about it)it just may happen that one day something good can come from this for you. Of course in all likelihood you will meet someone else that you like even better before then who reciprocates your feelings, but in that case, so much the better.

Seriously serious... seriously wrote:

I'm not really trying to get with her or anything; I just feel like she deserves to be told she's an incredible girl.

I suspect that this is not really true, even though you may, at some level, believe it.

If you want to tell someone that she's an incredible girl simply because she deserves it, tell it to the fat girl who volunteers at the soup kitchen or the Special Olympics.

I would most defiantly tell her. Life is way too short to worry about some other person walking around with what could be yours. She maybe feels the same. I might find better words than your hot, or I like you because you’re pretty. When you describe your running who says I like running because I am fast. It would go way beyond that.

The way it makes you feel why you plan to do it for the rest of your life. How you might feel if it was taking away from you. Take that same emotion and tell her. Juma Ikanga once said the will to win means nothing without the will to prepare. Think about what you want to say and never stumble. If it comes from your heart and there is any interest at all on her side you will have her in tears when it is over. You still may not get her and you most defiantly will feel like a pussy afterwards, but how many times have we ran bad races just to come back to run a great race afterwards.

Nothing wrong with a broken heart,but should be ashamed with broken will.

hitch wrote:

You will be looked at like a creep if your not already looked at as one by her. don't do it you f***...geez ppl really need to have common sense with girls. It's all about the game. You obviuos know you don't have a shot. So don't say anything and dig yourself into a deeper hole. What's the point of telling her that if she not interested in you and out of your league. Your gonna be that looser kid you see in disney movies.... f***.

I don't think I could have expressed this quite so eloquently, but this poster is on the right track. I think if you go ahead with your plan, she will regard you as creepy. Unless, or course, you're the sh*t, in which case you probably don't need her.

Seriously serious... seriously wrote:

I'm not really trying to get with her or anything;

Yes, you really are. Stop kidding yourself.

Yes, do tell her. Why the heck not? Girls love to hear compliments even if they've heard them before. It's hard for me to understand all the cautious, reasonable people out there. You have nothing to lose anyway.

Oh my god - WTF? Let me get this straight.

1. You have a female acquaintance

2. You are NOT in love with her

3. She is physically attractive

4. She has a good personality

5. You want to tell her how beautiful you think she is.

6. You re-state you don't want to "get" with her.

7. She has a boyfriend

8. You think she "deserves" to be told that she's incredible.

Hmmmm...you, my friend, are a total idiot - and a pussy.

You are in denial - what purpose is served by telling a girl (who is already beautiful and has a great personality) that she's incredible? Yes - you do want to get in her panties. So, maybe you're not in love - but I'm betting that if an opportunity opened up, you'd be all over it.

She's an acquaintance - you really don't know anything about her outside of class...other than what she's told you. Based on such little info, and coming from a biased source (her) - how in the world can you claim that she's incredible? You don't f***in even KNOW her....UNLESS by telling her and you think it is a way to get into her panties.

So - I think we've established that either you are 1) totally gay and don't know it, or 2) really do want to nail this chick. I'm hoping you are #2 in this case.

So - do it the Leykis way - give her a backhanded compliment...like "Black looks great on you, it tends to make people seem smaller." Or "I think you're great despite what I heard about you."...etc etc etc. Then commiserate with her, become her friend and then when the timing is right - get busy.

So - which are you? #1 or #2?

the only regrets i have in my life are telling girls that i was interested in them. i wasn't rejected in any of the cases. except for the last one, but it wasn't quite a rejection ... i left the state the next day. that last case is most like yours, "i just want to tell her before i go."

why do i regret it? because i was too young to know who i liked or what i liked or needed or really wanted in/of a girl. i didn't even know myself well enough to know why i was doing it. i go ahead and do it, anyway, and what's the result? ... it just makes a mess of things.

i'd keep a photo in a shoebox so you can remember her in ten years, and in that process remember that you kept your mouth shut. :)

but that's just my opinion. i prefer the quiet.

dude think about it. do you ever go for the acquaintance girl who completely throws herself at you and confesses her love to you, or the one that seems just out of reach; who teases you, and then hits on another guy. i know i prefer the second (i assume were talkin' about relationships here, not just hookups.) just be the shit: yourself, but also funny, genuine, give her a little bit of a hard time. treat her like you would a cousin or something (and then totally forget about that part when you actually get with her ;)) girls love the outta reach, cant-have guy who teases 'em and makes em laugh. plain and simple.

Female perspective here.

I don't see what the big deal is. Why not do it? If she's been hanging out with you before she won't think you are creepy and if she does she probably thought so before you said anything.

Just say something simple like "You are the kind of girl I hope to be with some day. You are beautiful and I admire you."

She may say something nice about you that you might want to hear. Yeah, she probably won't break up with her bf, but you don't expect her to.

As stated before, you will not be the first to tell her this so it's not a really big deal, but it might be a nice thing to do.

It's easier to get over an awkward conversation that bombs than an awkward conversation you never have

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take

Girl of your dreams is within your reach! Don't settle!

Wad wrote:

"Black looks great on you, it tends to make people seem smaller." Or "I think you're great despite what I heard about you."

FFS don't say any of this crap to her unless you're looking for a weird stare and not very much communication!

track chick wrote:

FFS don't say any of this crap to her unless you're looking for a weird stare and not very much communication!

Wad wrote:

"Black looks great on you, it tends to make people seem smaller." Or "I think you're great despite what I heard about you."

Awww, come on track chick - you know that makes girls squirm....

...I stand by my words - never give a girl a out and out compliment - you'll only pay for it later. If you give her the idea that she's desirable in your eyes, she'll make you wait longer to give it up....and milk it for all it's worth.

Girls like attention - positive OR negative.

Does she like to drink adult beverages? Booze as well as pharmicuticals have always helped people say what they really want to say.

Try these with her if applicable. Don't forget to bring a j-hat also.

plz don't do it my son

barf barf wrote:

(B) She has a boyfriend. Not only is it unethical to do this, but her boyfriend will not be happy (most won't do anything, but there are some jealous/crazy nuts out there that could beat you up), most other guys will lose respect for you, and most other girls will see you are a guy that does not respect a good relationship and they will be less likely to go for you later.

Some of what you said was true but this part of the statement is dead wrong. You can argue about the ethics of hooking up with someone who is taken all you want, and true, the occasional guy may come after you (happens way less than you might think though). Speaking from experience, though, if you're not breaking up marriages, guys won't care (they'll think less of the cheating girl than of you) and girls will want to get with you. The more evidence there is that you're attractive (ie, girls hooking up with you) the more other girls will feel a competitive drive to get with you. The homewrecking thing can enhance an attractive bad-boy persona, as well. I know this sounds absurd, and it is disturbing to think about, and few people would admit to it. But trust me. This is how it works.