20 Year Old Virgin, Am I in the Minority?

There's a real answer.

The fact that you haven't done it yet means you don't want to be a scum bag who bangs random chicks. Just do it when you're ready. This isn't American Pie, getting laid doesn't launch you into some upper echelon of coolness.

better late than never? wrote:

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I look back and realize how insecure I was to think that I needed to have sex to fit in. I wish I would have waited. Sure, there were good times, but a lot of baggage went along with it, and I would have liked to share my first time with my wife.

My advice to you is just go with the flow. Don't feel bad about it, just live and if you find someone that's right for you great, if not, that's okay too. It's funny to think that having sex is like joining an elite group, when it's something that the majority of the population has done.

any intelligent and decent person knows that this is the right answer to any question coming from a young virgin. i hope the OP pays attention and doesn't listen to the drivel from the other letsrun idiots.

Yeeessssssssssssssssssss. My suggestion is "do it in the butt."

It's cliche but I lost it when I quit worrying about it. I was 18 and a freshman in college. There were some girls who started hanging out occassionally on my freshman hall. Eventually, because I was oblivious, one of my buddies informed one of these girls liked me. Not long thereafter, we were both intoxicated and naked in her room. She was not that hot but, looking back, it was an enjoyable experience. She thought I was some kind of seasoned sex stud which was pretty funny. Good times.

Not getting Much wrote:

I'm guessing yes, but by how much exactly?

I'm pretty fit and from what I can tell attractive enough to women, I just haven't made girls a priority up to this point in my life.

Is this something I should work on? Am I going to have social stigma attached to me soon?

homo

suzie-q wrote:

When you decide to make girls a priority...then the girls will come. No big rush..take your time.

Homo

LateBloomer wrote:

Some of us just start later - was 36 when I lost my virginity. Going to do her again tonight.

hahah homo

ok, im 16 and pretty much all my friends have lost their virginity. I feel like a loser that i havnt got laid yet.

I was eatin supper at a resturaunt a few nights ago with 2 freshman girls (14-15), and my best friend a senior (whos 17)...the conversation turned to sex and was the only one who hadnt had sex yet, i felt like a loser...they were laughing that i hadnt had sex yet but were trying to make me feel better...i was just laughing along like it didnt bother me, but i really do need sex

Libido Kneivel wrote:

I'm proud to say I never f u c ked a fat girl though.

That's nothing to brag on son.

All it means is you've boned less than you could have. Your loss.

If things get bad there is always the barn yard.

Baaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!

17, baby. 17 is the perfect age.

I'm a 21 year old guy who's a virgin. I've actually never even had a girlfriend except for a very brief relationship in middle school (which I probably shouldn't even count). I would suggest not worrying about it. I'm (you should probably do this too) just going to just go with the flow and if I meet the right person, that's cool, and if I don't that's cool too.

Yes, you are in the minority. Call me. Wait. Post a picture first

29 year old virgin here & plan to be a virgin until I marry. My last girlfriend pushed the ropes. I told her on the first date kissing only & later even wrote it out for her. She started dry humping me the first kiss. No joke. Slut. I later dumped her, after I let her go so far as a bj. I learned next time don't even allow a kiss.

What the hell is wrong with all of you? A virgin at 20 nothing to be proud of.

gray subliminal wrote:

29 year old virgin here ..... after I let her go so far as a bj.

hmmmm

thought i was late at 18 wrote:

What the hell is wrong with all of you? A virgin at 20 nothing to be proud of.

Maybe not proud of, but not ashamed of either its fine. I can honestly say that by waiting until 21 my life was not ruined, or even really negatively affected at all. Even now at age 23, if I hadn't done it already, I don't think I'd be in a hurry too. Don't get me wrong, I get with my girlfriend every chance I get, but I wouldn't change anything about my decisions.

virgin til 26 when i got married this past summer.

i had 2, possibly 3 opportunities prior to that when i wasn't with my g/f (now wife). I am glad I waited, i cant even imagine the guilt that would go along with it.

realistically, self control is what separates us from the animals. self control is no longer valued by our society, who tell us, "if it feels good, do it!" i live to a higher standard, and man, i tell you, my wife and i have a healthy sex life. it's awesome. compare that with other friends who are sex addicts and married--yet are close to divorce, b/c they never told themselves no before, so they succumbed to temptation and went for it with someone who was not their wife.

oh yeah, once women find out you're engaged and/or married, they'll be on you like white on rice. so hold strong and stay tight dude. just because MTV tells you that you need it, doesn't mean it's true. don't let the bastards get you down.