Most of us have had that conversation. It's called begging.
A younger guy wrote:
Perhaps I'm naive in suggesting this...
But, why don't all the guys who aren't having sex with their wive's on a regular basis just tell them that it bothers them, and actually have a conversation about it.
About 20 years ago I was running around Bangkok with a couple of Navy SEALs. We had just finished an exercse with the Thais. Anyway, we were in Pat Pong(?) one night and one of the SEALs starts hitting on this absolutely gorgeous Thai girl. While they're dancing away, our driver comes in and taps me on the shoulder. He says, tell your friend he's dancing with a man. We couldn't believe it, but we decided to let them dance for a while for a laugh. When he got back I told him. He was so pissed he went back to the he-girl and grabbed his crotch. He claims he didn't feel anything but the driver swears it was a guy. Told us he had seen him before. And the he-girl's hands sure did look big.
Just asking but wrote:
are you sure it's a woman? See "The Crying Game".
You definitely are atypical.
atypical wrote:I havn't gotten laid in almost three years and I could care less. Who can't take care of themselves sexually?
recently married <3 years and i hear you. in my case i made the mistake of equated getting engaged with "well, we are basically married". not the case.
But it's natural for our brains to want maximal stimulation/growth, so to think your growth won't be stunted by being tied to somebody seems unrealistic, and for many that will lead to feelings of resentment, right?
I look at my family members that I resemble most, who are very independent minded and needs lots of time alone, and I just don't think we're built for marriage.
...or because they can't wait to start having sex.
The scary thing is that it sounds like so many people get married because of mistaking the sexual connection for more than it is.
yeah, i think there is probably something to that.
the long path wrote:
perhaps it is just an idea of the limitations rather than the limitations themselves that is what bothers me.
MAYEROFF wrote:CORN HOLE wrote:Sorry to let you down once again. I get tested for EVERYTHING once a year and it's all negative. Last test was a month ago. I get tested for Herpes, Syphyllis, HIV, HPV, Hepatitis, etc., and never tested positive for anything. I had some swollen lymph nodes and a fever one time, but it was just a good ol' case of the flu.
You could have something and not know it. Not all STD's are visible. You could be a carrier sharing the wealth.
If you've gone 10 years without a condom breaking, then you might just be the luckiest person I have ever heard of.
Kid, women never have the same level of need that a young boy has. Never. Not at their "sexual peak". Not even close. Can't say as I blame them either. The object of desire for most men is women. Women are beautiful. Men are...well, not beautiful. I'm not saying I can't recognize a handsome man, but holy crap are women so much more appealing. Kind of why I really don't understand why any man would be gay (not that there's anything wrong with that). Elaine on Seinfeld said as much; men are utilitarian; women are art. I agree with her. I can't believe more women aren't lesbian. If I were a woman, I'd be thinking, "you mean he's got this thing that he wants to poke me with?"
18 and life to go wrote:
A question for any married women out there that don't give it up very easily.
What changes for the woman? Do women enjoy frequent sex the first year or two of a relationship like they act like they do or is it all an act to try and get married? Men pretty much stay the same after marriage as before (always horny) but most women do a dramatic shift. What changes? It seems like false advertising in the worst possible way to me!
In all seriousness though, what changes?? Obviously the newness is gone but if you are in love and attracted to somebody you would think you would still love to have sex more than once or twice a month. Does it all come down to a big power issue? Do you just not enjoy sex as much as you used to?
Another random thought on this topic:
Women are in their sexual prime when they are in their mid thirties or so. This means that their sex drive should be what mens sex drives were when they were sprouting boners in 6th grade math class for no reason. You would think they would be horny and want it all the time even though they were married!?