I'm a woman currently in the midst of a shut-off. We're both under thirty, fit, attractive and we haven't been married all that long (5 years and a bit). I don't know exactly how it happened, I can see my husband is handsome, honest and hardworking. He's attractive to me but we hardly ever have sex anymore. I'm talking once a month now and I know it's my fault. I feel very guilty for not wanting more and even that once a month is more for him than for me. It's not that I don't think about sex, I do. I don't understand why I can't want the man that clearly wants me. I know this will destroy our marriage, he's only human. I didn't think this would ever happen to us. I just thought I'd share this as a womens perspective, I wish I could give more insight. I'm just not sure love is supposed to feel like this but I know I love him.