You stated that you believe that you husband would sleep with anything with "a hole." And that is the reason you are keeping your distance and don't want to have sex and so on. You have your own fantasies that could be acted out with your husband, but you choose to shut him out over the assumption that he would sleep with anything rather than you. Basically, it's your husbands fault even though this is a thought that you've made up in your head that is probably 99.9% false.
You are punishing him and distancing yourself over an insecure thought that is totally unjustified. Think about that logic.
Just because SOME women like to control men by withholding sex doesn't mean that they should. And it doesn't mean that they have to. It's a choice. The woman is pissed or sad...misery loves company and that's why women like to shut men out of their lives. Guess what? They ARE miserable as you can tell by the numerous posts by punished men. It's sick.