"Girl Next Door wrote:
I'm just trying to convey that a woman wants to feel that a man is having sex with her because of who she is, not what she is. Maybe that is too much to expect, it sounds like it might be."
This is such a cop out. I cannot believe that you are trying to get sympathy from men on this board because you have become disinterested in your husband/marriage. Your husband gained some weight. Work out with him! Gosh, tell him you want him to get fit. Help encourage weight loss. Do you think men want to have sex with a woman who just lies there and is totally tuned out? Do you think they enjoy sex when their spouse is yawning and rolling their eyes? Come on. You should know better than that. Maybe it's too much to expect that you stop making your husband out to be the bad guy when this appears to be your emotional issue. It sounds like it might be too much to expect that you take a different approach to your marriage and try to stop alienating your husband. If you are so unhappy...why do you stay married anyway? It's not fair to your husband. He could find a woman who appreciates him more.
I am sorry to be blunt, but you need a wake up call, lady.