I appreciate you posting... I don't know your husband but I think you missed my point, the thing that would get me angry is that would even think that a man, a husband in fact only wants you because you are there
sex is everywhere, if he was in the marriage just to get his rocks off there are other outlets if he was truly that cold
but the point is i highly doubt that that is the case
what gets me is that you would even have those thoughts about your husband... wouldn't those thoughts have been there before you got married???
sorry, your input is great and valuable to this thread
my only reaction is of course it is not too much to expect to have sex with someone who only wants to have sex with you - and maybe your husband has emotionally deserted you
it is certainly a give and take, because from a man's point of view, they feel that if they are being shut off then how can they be warm and cuddly at the same time from someone who has shut them out
i would be very hurt if my wife actually thought that I would be willing to have sex with anyone, maybe that is why she has never shut me off, I don't know
Girl Next Door wrote:
I'm just trying to convey that a woman wants to feel that a man is having sex with her because of who she is, not what she is. Maybe that is too much to expect, it sounds like it might be. Have a nice day.