I want to thank you for starting this thing because you showed me that I have it pretty good. I have been married for 26 years and, yes, I'm still getting it. All that stuff about putting beans in a jar during the first year of marriage, that is very different from my experience. Our frequency has decreased from 3 times per week in the first few years of marriage to maybe 1.3 times per week now. I would prefer more, but now I realize I am doing OK.
I think the guys have to share some of the blame. First, you do need to tell your wife that she is a hot tomato. I do and I believe it. But you don't have to suck up to her either. Also, sometimes you have to wield the hammer a bit too. If a week has gone by and she keeps postponing, try the direct approach. Tell her that it's been a week, so what gives? Set up an appointment, if that's what it takes. And don't take no for an answer for too long. Sex is part of marriage and lack of sex is grounds for divorce. If she give you a hard time, tell her you are going to talk to your priest or rabbi. If she still hesitates, do it!
I am completely baffled by a guy that says that he has a great wife, except that they don't have sex. If she loves you, she should certainly be willing to make love once a week. Is that so tough? If you have a good marriage, you should be able to solve the sex problem. Of course, if your marriage basically sucks, then the sex is just a sympton of much bigger problems. In this case, set yourself free. No point in living with a witch.
Anyway, thanks again Need Data