No, but guys who get married young don't like guys that played the long game. The "fair share when it mattered" bit was the tell. If I had settled down when it mattered, presumably early to mid 20s, I'd have had limited options as I worked my way through college and didn't have Mom and Dad financing my love life. Funny how much your options open up if you keep in shape, invest in yourself, and accrue wealth during your 20s.
We all have our crosses to bear.
It sounds like you’re saying you had no game in your 20s and you have no game now.
No, but guys who get married young don't like guys that played the long game. The "fair share when it mattered" bit was the tell. If I had settled down when it mattered, presumably early to mid 20s, I'd have had limited options as I worked my way through college and didn't have Mom and Dad financing my love life. Funny how much your options open up if you keep in shape, invest in yourself, and accrue wealth during your 20s.
We all have our crosses to bear.
It sounds like you’re saying you had no game in your 20s and you have no game now.
I don’t know what you’re talking about. I made 8 bucks an hour in my early twenties. I was hitting it.
If you weren’t it wasn’t because you had no cash.
You're bragging about "hitting it" on an anonymous online running forum. Of course the ladies can't get enough of you.
All I ever said was "my options would have been limited" in regards to settling down. Limited in what way? Was it a quantity thing? Was it a quality thing? Look, all I know being in my early 30s is that my old college buddies who married Sally Sorority don't seem all too happy. Sally became the 5' 4" 180 lb tyrant of Target. Can't blame them.
I may have no friends, but garnering interest from women isn't a problem. As a man who "hits it", you must know an LTR with a great woman who is fun to kick it with beats the quantity side of the equation any day. Unless you just like to "hit it", in which case, to each their own.
I don’t know what you’re talking about. I made 8 bucks an hour in my early twenties. I was hitting it.
If you weren’t it wasn’t because you had no cash.
You're bragging about "hitting it" on an anonymous online running forum. Of course the ladies can't get enough of you.
All I ever said was "my options would have been limited" in regards to settling down. Limited in what way? Was it a quantity thing? Was it a quality thing? Look, all I know being in my early 30s is that my old college buddies who married Sally Sorority don't seem all too happy. Sally became the 5' 4" 180 lb tyrant of Target. Can't blame them.
I may have no friends, but garnering interest from women isn't a problem. As a man who "hits it", you must know an LTR with a great woman who is fun to kick it with beats the quantity side of the equation any day. Unless you just like to "hit it", in which case, to each their own.
I haven't met a friend face to face in 11 years. I'm 34 now...
Really need to join a running group or something. Once you're on the outside it's hard to change.
While I'm in a similar situation, I'm not exactly sure how I feel about it. I would like to have meaningful relationships...but those seem hard to come by. I also don't generally get along with people all that well; so it has to be a TRULY meaningful relationship to survive that initial possible shaky/volatile ground. Any superficiality will likely sabotage it otherwise.
The thing is, I've got my wife, my kids, and my hobbies. There isn't a lot of room for much else, anyway. But I won't lie, I wish I had some other connections. Ideally, in a vacuum, it would be great. But things are usually more complicated than that, and the risk/reward might not be worth even seeking it out (or even hoping for it by chance).
Sometimes you outgrow people, and that's ok. Sometimes you're not emotionally available to people because you're dealing with your own stuff, that's ok too. Do what you actually want to do because other people can't make you happy.