Ignore them. Normies think running too much will give you an enlarged heart. They're old and out of shape so they've shifted over to full copemode when they see someone trying.
Ok guys I'm 20 years old about to be a junior in college, don't run for the team, but I ran 4 years of XC/Track in high school with PBs of 1 mile - 4:33, 5k - 16:54, half - 1:20 and I have been recently running around 50-60 miles per week, but all of a sudden my parents got angry when I told them I ran 7 miles and my dad says I'm running too much when I only ran 7 miles and he keeps telling me to only run 3 days a week or quit. Now I'm not a troll or anything, but I rely on them because I got no money, no car, and no job and I'm an incoming junior at my university with $5k of student loan debt already. How can I tell my parents that I need to get my mileage in and or convince them to let me do my own training?
i'm thinking a little context was left out of this deposition. did you run 7 miles instead of doing something you were supposed to be doing? most parents wouldn't be unreasonable enough to just object to their kid running just because.
OP do you happen to be Asian? You should just get a job, take out student loans and be financially independent. 5k seems like a lot when you're 20 years old but that is really nothing for student debt. You'll probably make at least 70k/year as a new grad out of school and work your way up to well over 100k in a few years.
Yeah I actually am Indian
Yeah man from what I understand, Asian parents just don't care about fitness or sports at all. They think it's a waste of time, despite the health benefits. Just don't tell them.
I moved out of the house at age 18 and never went back. I survived on student loans and summer jobs until I got a real job after graduation. Never looked back.
You've only $5k in debt after two years of college? I wouldn't complain too loudly. It's not like your parents are monitoring your workouts (unless you still live at home). Keep your grades up and they won't say anything.
Ok guys I'm 20 years old about to be a junior in college, don't run for the team, but I ran 4 years of XC/Track in high school with PBs of 1 mile - 4:33, 5k - 16:54, half - 1:20 and I have been recently running around 50-60 miles per week, but all of a sudden my parents got angry when I told them I ran 7 miles and my dad says I'm running too much when I only ran 7 miles and he keeps telling me to only run 3 days a week or quit. Now I'm not a troll or anything, but I rely on them because I got no money, no car, and no job and I'm an incoming junior at my university with $5k of student loan debt already. How can I tell my parents that I need to get my mileage in and or convince them to let me do my own training?
i'm thinking a little context was left out of this deposition. did you run 7 miles instead of doing something you were supposed to be doing? most parents wouldn't be unreasonable enough to just object to their kid running just because.
If you are getting good grades in a meaningful major, tell them your system currently works well for you. You wouldn't be the first person to combine academics with physical activity to optimize overall effectiveness.
I am it's just they don't care since I'm not a 4.0 gpa, my GPA is a 3.0 and I'm a Computer Science major which is really hard since I have to take a lot of engineering courses and they still don't care. My parents are constantly comparing me to my older sister who's in medical school and keep shaming me for not being as smart as her.
You don't need to keep running with run-on sentences like this.
In all seriousness though, if the running isn't interfering with studying keep it up. If, however, you are picking running over more studying or lab work then I agree with them. Running is a fun side hobby and nothing more.
Also, no one cares about your GPA. I've never asked the GPA of anyone I've hired and having it on a resume is a negative for me. I care about people that worked at least part time, and preferably full time, while in college. If you worked 40 hours a week, took a full time load, and graduated with a 2.5 I'd take you over a 4.0 that only did school full time.
Also, no one cares about your GPA. I've never asked the GPA of anyone I've hired and having it on a resume is a negative for me. I care about people that worked at least part time, and preferably full time, while in college. If you worked 40 hours a week, took a full time load, and graduated with a 2.5 I'd take you over a 4.0 that only did school full time.
How do you get a parent (especially immigrant parents) to understand this?
Also, no one cares about your GPA. I've never asked the GPA of anyone I've hired and having it on a resume is a negative for me. I care about people that worked at least part time, and preferably full time, while in college. If you worked 40 hours a week, took a full time load, and graduated with a 2.5 I'd take you over a 4.0 that only did school full time.
How do you get a parent (especially immigrant parents) to understand this?
Learning to craft a compelling argument and change the initial bias of a person is an important life skill. I'd put the effort into that and maybe roll back the Mike's while I do the research to back up my argument. I'd interview hiring managers, compile research that correlated success to achievement, and have maybe 1,000 pages for my case.
Your parents are right. You are unlikely to get anywhere professionally significant with your running, but putting more time in CS at this point in your life to up your GPA is likely to give you much more benefit in life.
What if I love running and don't wanna quit? I don't give a damn about GPA. 3.0 is actually not that bad.
Nobody asked you to quit running as I understand it, but you do you. Many, actually most, people make sub-optimal life choices, so you won’t be the first and it can’t hurt all that bad to be mediocre like most people by definition are.
I think the older people in this thread don't understand that a 3.0 is barely passing at most unis today. For reference, I believe that many large unis won't let you take upper division engineering courses if your GPA is under a 3.0.
It's not like a B is a failing grade, I'm sure that many people get Bs in subjects they understand pretty well. If you didn't sleep before the final, or just had a bad day it is totally understandable. If it gets to the point where you're average is a B, on the other hand, it means that something is seriously wrong. There are plenty of courses where it is pretty easy to get above a B, these should be padding your GPA but it looks like they aren't.
There are two ways I could see someone getting a 3.0 - low or high variance. In the low variance case most of your grades are B/B-/B+, this isn't that bad but if CS is something you really want to do you should strive to get a few As in courses you find interesting. Again, a B isn't that bad, but it is a bit of a disappointment and there should be some easy courses padding your transcript, why didn't you get As in those? This means that your transcript is covered in disappointments.
In the high variance case your transcript is half A grades and half C grades. A C is failing, it might have not been a failing grade in the 90s but it is today. It means that you are basically failing half of your courses. If these are CS courses then you really need to decide if CS is something that you actually want to do.
Either way your parents do have a point - you aren't doing that well and you need to find a way to improve your study habits, time management, or something else. They are ascribing it to the wrong cause, however. No one is asking you to stop running.
If OPs parents are Indian they probably don't want him to just be some programmer, they want him to have a great job at a great company and all that jazz. To do this you pretty much have to have a good internship or two under your belt before you graduate, and maybe a masters degree. Like it or not GPA matters for getting an internship (unless you have some connections) and probably for getting into a masters program. Does OP want that? I don't know. It doesn't sound like he does, but that's okay.
What did you do this summer, OP? Did you work an internship? A real job? You only have one more college summer left. This probably sounds like I'm taking shots at the OP, but I'm really just trying to lay out how things actually are and not give you the convenient fantasy that "grades don't matter".
To me it really seems like the problem isn't that your parents don't want you to run. The problem is that you don't really want to study CS and your parents want you to study it and do well in it. It's okay if CS doesn't interest you, it doesn't interest me or most of the world either! You are clearly using this conflict to try to justify whatever frustration you have towards you parents for pushing into CS. Keep running and don't tell your parents, work on your discipline when it comes to studying/working on projects, try to hang in CS for another semester and see if the upper division courses light a fire in you, otherwise think about switching majors.
Ok guys I'm 20 years old ...How can I tell my parents that I need to get my mileage in and or convince them to let me do my own training?
I'm almost 50 years old and my mother still tells me to "run less and gain weight." Both her and my dad never exercised, are obese and both recently almost died of heart disease. Do I 'run less and gain weight," because mommy said so?
Hell no. I run 70 miles per week. I just qualified for and ran Boston marathon for the first time. Now I'm shooting for a sub-3:00 marathon by age 50.
You're a grown man. Do what you what to do, have your reasons, and still to them. Not everyone is going to support and agree with your dreams. Follow your own path.
Everyone should exercise one hour a day. That includes your parents. It doesn’t matter if it’s walking, biking, dancing, or running. This isn’t 1890. If you don’t exercise a significant amount then you’re asking for trouble. There’s a reason why obesity is the greatest killer America has ever known.
But here’s the thing. Why not listen to lectures on your major while you run. Your parents want to see that your giving your all to your education. College ain’t cheap young buck.
Your parents are right. You are unlikely to get anywhere professionally significant with your running, but putting more time in CS at this point in your life to up your GPA is likely to give you much more benefit in life.
What if I love running and don't wanna quit? I don't give a damn about GPA. 3.0 is actually not that bad.
If you don't live with your parents, keep running but stop talking about it.
If you DO live with your parents, then drop down to 3x per week, or maybe negotiate 4x per week. You'll graduate soon, get a job and get your place, and then you can do whatever your little heart desires, including running a 100 miles per week if that's what you want.
Either way, pull up your GPA. That way, when you graduate, you can get a cushy well-paying interesting job in a field of your choice.
Also, no one cares about your GPA. I've never asked the GPA of anyone I've hired and having it on a resume is a negative for me. I care about people that worked at least part time, and preferably full time, while in college. If you worked 40 hours a week, took a full time load, and graduated with a 2.5 I'd take you over a 4.0 that only did school full time.
How do you get a parent (especially immigrant parents) to understand this?
You don't, because many top employers do care about GPA, especially a differential of 4.0 to 2.5. So to improve your odds of landing a good job, you don't want to limit your search to managers who share the "I don't care about GPA" philosophy.
Quit yer running, lad. Ya got yer feet up on the back o' the couch, eatin' chips, and playing video games as well. All this whilst not doin yer homework. And wher'd it get ya? That's right. Nothin more than a three point naught for the average of yer studies. Should be ashamed of yerself, ye should.