Whatever, dude, you send your son to college to become self hating, or worse, and I'll advise my son and anyone who asks for my advice (about careers for young men) to do skilled trades.
According to Psychology Today, modern dating’s higher standards for straight men have created more “lonely, single men” than ever.
“The problem for men is that emotional connection is the lifeblood of healthy, long-term love. Emotional connection requires all the skills that families are still not consistently teaching their young boys.”
Straight men: any truth to this? As women have gotten more equal footing/higher standards, has it become more or less difficult to date/get married?
I've also blogged about this at length on here so I won't repeat. But what I don't like about this framing is that the EXACT SAME NUMBER of women also will not find a desirable monogamous heterosexual relationship. But, it is ALWAYS framed as men's failure.
Let me add to this that there ARE a lot of totally un-dateable men AND WOMEN who are losers. But society is only allowed to criticize one of the two. The other is showered with self-love messages/body positivity/etc.
One more thought to put out there. Young boys are SIX TIMES AS LIKELY as young girls to commit suicide. But we launched a congressional hearing to regulate social media because it's causing "young girls" to become suicidal. No mention of the aforementioned statistic.
Whatever, dude, you send your son to college to become self hating, or worse, and I'll advise my son and anyone who asks for my advice (about careers for young men) to do skilled trades.
Good luck having a son in your fantasy world.
I already have children. Married, +20 years. Here's a tip for success with the ladies, what they say, what they think, and how they behave are three entirely different things, that even they can't reconcile.
When you see who women are typically trying to chase, it's not very obvious that "healthy emotional connections and communication" is the driving factor behind female mating choices. The article also contains a huge fallacy, which is that men are not the only lonely, single people out there. Women are just as single and lonely as men are.
The real problem is that our sexual/relationship norms in today's modern society (driven mainly by 2nd and 3rd wave feminism, developments in technology and cultural changes that gave women more economic mobility) is completely backwards. Both men and women are led to believe that the best course of action is to be single, or go through a series short-term flings, when you're young and sleep around as much as possible. Women are also encouraged to be single and independent of men. Whereas it was normal in more traditional societies to marry young, stay together and build a family.
This modern mating strategy is incredibly destructive and dysfunctional more both men and women, moreso for women as they age. Here's why - women have more sexual agency when they're young and at their peak sexual market value, thus allowing them to have more partners and partners of higher social status from around age 18-30ish. After 30, women start to lose their sexual agency, but don't want to settle for the less attractive males, all the while their biologic clocks are ticking down. Many the attractive men with social/ economic status at that age that most women want (and feel they deserve based on their previous levels of attractiveness) would rather stay single because they have options, or are already married. This is why there's a standstill and hoards of single, lonely people out there.
Wow, like clockwork, the effeminate whiteknights have come to virtue signal by sh!tting on men in order to feel good about themselves. LRC really is the new Twitter.
More like lower standards for women have created women who just want casual sex with Chads, men way out of their league for long term relationships, then as they get older, they have these huge list of demands for less attractive men to wife them up, so they can divorce rape them and go back to casual sex with the top 10% of men.
this tbh
lol at the boomers here saying women want a "real man" who can "work and provide" and "do manual labor". lmao even
women care about one thing only: looks. we're not living in 1950s anymore, women work, they are independent, they don't need men for anything except for sex, and only around 20% of the male iare deserving of sex in the eyes of women, so that's why you have so many incels today.
"women just want a hardworking guy, just work and provide and women will come. they care about your personality and attitude, not about your looks, only men care about that" - boomer mentality
dailymail co uk/news/article-2223761/Meet-ridiculously-photogenic-homeless-guy-picture-shared-40-000-times-Facebook.html - reality
The problem is that many men provide no value. None at all. Women may be better educated, make more money, have more options, so why would they settle for some incel loser who can't hold a job, doesn't even want to live in his own apartment/house, plays video games all weekend, can't change a flat tire or perform any sort of masculine duties whatsoever except maybe having a decent bench press?
It's tiring to see women being blamed for these problems. Men have lost their way. Too many don't offer anything that women can't get anywhere from anyone.
Dating is not difficult as a straight male. Basically don't be a creep, be able to have a conversation, take at least some care for yourself and your appearance, and don't live with your parents past college.
All these incells have a mental illness and persecution complex.
I already have children. Married, +20 years. Here's a tip for success with the ladies, what they say, what they think, and how they behave are three entirely different things, that even they can't reconcile.
Wow, what a coincidence. I could say the same thing about men.
It is objectively true that the birth rate and the marriage rate have both plummeted in the last 60 years. Hmm, what happened 60 years ago that could have led to this???
The problem is that many men provide no value. None at all. Women may be better educated, make more money, have more options, so why would they settle for some incel loser who can't hold a job, doesn't even want to live in his own apartment/house, plays video games all weekend, can't change a flat tire or perform any sort of masculine duties whatsoever except maybe having a decent bench press?
It's tiring to see women being blamed for these problems. Men have lost their way. Too many don't offer anything that women can't get anywhere from anyone.
Aw I'm so sorry that it's tiring for you to hear that women can't just have their cake and eat it too. Here's the truth - guys with options don't want modern women who've been ran through in their twenties, and then don't want to perform the role of being a good wife, but still demand a "real man" who performs the traditional duties of a husband. Most women are not even worth the headache of marrying and women are increasingly making choices that disqualify them as marriage.
It’s interesting that a lot of men l, when I was dating, assumed I had been “ran through” even though that was far from the case. And even if I had, so what? Men, on the other hand, can sleep with as many women as they want, and no one calls them out on it.
The fact is, women have more options (due to contraception, education, dating apps) now as compared to many years ago, and both women and men will have difficulty navigating relationships due to these changes. Women can either relax their “standards” a bit, and men can stop being so angry about it.
