malarko wrote:
As to school, there are plenty of examples of how to treat trans kids in an empathetic way. We're already pretty much letting them use the locker rooms and bathrooms of their choice. They can generally dress how they want, act how they want. There are probably examples of non-sports school groups and clubs that are "for girls" or "for boys" that, whether competitive or not (i.e., a girls drama competition?), do not give a huge advantage to trans girls over girls, or which do not have the equivalent of roster limits that mean taking an opportunity away from somebody by joining. Most importantly, teachers have to be willing to stand against bullying of trans kids, just as we had to learn to stop looking the other way when kids used that longer F-word that refers to gay boys and was used as a generic insult not that long ago, to the secret horror, I'm sure, of the closeted gay students.
If indeed all those things are already done, and they are not going to be reversed, then sports may not be such an important issue for trans kids. But there are still trans kids who don't eat and drink until after the school is over, because they are afraid of using the school's restrooms. There are many who are constantly harassed for how they dress and behave, not just by other kids, but also by teachers and other school staffs. Many states are introducing bills to restrict their lives totally unrelated to sports. There are even attempts to ban any discussion of LGBTQ issues at school.
So if you are a trans kid, you are told you cannot play sports with your friends because you have "unfair advantage." But then if you try to get puberty blocker so that you don't develop that "unfair advantage" then you are told you are too young to make that decision. In the meantime, the state legislature is trying to prevent you from using the girls' restroom beacuse you are a "sexual predator." But then you are told your parents pushed you into transition because they were afarid you were gay. If you try to form a student organization to share your experience with other LGBTQ students, you are told that's against the school policy or even the state law. How would that all make sense to you? I would feel like other people are trying to push me into a closet and make me invisible to them.