really who cares? wrote:
I have two sons. One married his wife as soon as they graduated college. The other lived with his partner for 11 years before they married. They both have wonderful committed relationships with the women they love. What matters is how they feel about each other and how they support each other, not how they introduce themselves.
No, how they feel doesn’t matter all that much. Refusing to commit, publicly, is still refusing to commit.
I introduced her as "my partner in life and love." 25 yrs now. Only time I got negative feedback was when my Mom and Sis wouldn't allow us in their house because we aren't married. They are Catholics and tow the party line. I just compartmentalize it, thinking some people are victims to their churches. That's only because they are blood:
other religious people-the ones who sacrifice humanity and decency for the authority and paternalism of religion--get from me responses equal to the tenor and content of their interactions: simple courtesy or questions where warranted. It's not complicated to respond to decency with decency and hypocrisy and collective arrogance with questions and reason.
I’m sorry if I’m confused because English isn’t your first language. I do have sympathy for some very smart people that can’t write English very well writing some confusing things.
However, I can’t understand what you are trying to say. It seems like you have a girlfriend that lives with you, and you need to introduce her to your wife.
Your wife probably already figured out that something is awry, but if she didn’t then you also have some other questions to answer.
jamese1045@hotmail.comwrote:
I introduced her as "my partner in life and love."
That’s great. Why not get married
couples who live in sin wrote:
I am married for starters, and don't agree with just living together. But how do people who have a live in girlfriend introduce her other people? Do you feel strange? What about at church? And if you have kids together, do you feel even worse? I know if l was just shaking up with a girl for long time l would feel weird introducing her to people. I mean some couples just live together forever. That would make me feel uncomfortable.
People like that tend to not go to church.
couples who live in sin wrote:
I am married for starters, and don't agree with just living together. But how do people who have a live in girlfriend introduce her other people? Do you feel strange? What about at church? And if you have kids together, do you feel even worse? I know if l was just shaking up with a girl for long time l would feel weird introducing her to people. I mean some couples just live together forever. That would make me feel uncomfortable.
Sounds like you carry around a lot of mental baggage from years of indoctrination by an outdated conservative values.
1) You introduce your significant other just like married couples do except in your case you substitute the word "wife" with "girlfriend".
2) Never
3) Church? What's that? People who like to tell others how to run their lives?
4) No. Not worse at all. Why would I/we?
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