What would you do if your wife asked to open up your marriage?

tell us more wrote:

When you walk in on her being gang banged?

I would join in... obviously. Any other stupid questions?

ghost_coach wrote:

tell us more wrote:

When you walk in on her being gang banged?

I would join in... obviously. Any other stupid questions?

Dream on big boy, just like you dream you can run sub 2:10 in the marathon.

By the way, maybe the OP is finding him with a similar issue as this:

Certainly an "open marriage" might be different than others her envision.

Divorce.

No 50/50 payout.

Cowboybob wrote:

ghost_coach wrote:

I would join in... obviously. Any other stupid questions?

Dream on big boy, just like you dream you can run sub 2:10 in the marathon.

I think you might be projecting your own insecurities here... sure seems that way.

I'm not kidding, that's exactly what would happen in that scenerio, and I'm certainly not one to be intimidated by group sex (especially with my hot wife). We've covered this ground repeatedly over the past 22 years. That's what grown ups do!

FYI, I've NEVER dreamed of running a marathon under 2:10... F that!

I'm a middle distance - 5K dreamer (for life) and I'm very comfortable with that.

depends on what your wife looks like and her skill set. If you need an upgrade then loaning her out so you can explore better options may be a win/win. If you are a fat lazy pizza eating slob who is lucky just to hold on to her based on a piece of paper and a 20yr old vow then I can see why you would be worried about it. Post a pic of each of you so we can decide if its a good idea for you or not so much

ghost_coach wrote:

tell us more wrote:

When you walk in on her being gang banged?

I would join in... obviously. Any other stupid questions?

Where do you live?

tell us more wrote:

ghost_coach wrote:

I would join in... obviously. Any other stupid questions?

Where do you live?

That answers that... lol.

The swinger friendly PNW... obviously. C'mon, man, you think Pre was the only "poon-hound" runner in these parts? Why do you think Frank visited so often?

He's not lying. The swinger and open relationships are REAL heavy in the PNW

I say its okay as long as you aren't aware of the other people.

I would do the Lambeau leap

Friends of a Friend wrote:

What would you do if your wife came to you and asked to open up your marriage, physically I mean? What would you do if she gave you an ultimatum? What if you loved her, she says she loves you, but she also basically refuses to stop having other men in her life? How does one navigate these situations?

Anyone who tells you they "love" you but they want to have sex with other people doesn't really love you. Move on.

I live in the PNW and have known Many many people in open relationships or have gone that way and have lots of observations.

First off, it never works for long. Sorry, it just doesn’t. You might meet a couple who have been into it for ten years, but usually it’s children holding it together.

Lots of psychopaths are into this. Expect drama, STDs, ,being stalked, etc.

Lots of mental Illness. Whether the mental illness leads to this or is what causes it, I don’t know.

Those I knew that opened their marriage either were or became extremely selfish people and a shell of themselves.

Friends of a Friend wrote:

What would you do if your wife came to you and asked to open up your marriage, physically I mean? What would you do if she gave you an ultimatum? What if you loved her, she says she loves you, but she also basically refuses to stop having other men in her life? How does one navigate these situations?

I'd have some threesomes and see who else I could find.

Friends of a Friend wrote:

What would you do if your wife came to you and asked to open up your marriage, physically I mean? What would you do if she gave you an ultimatum? What if you loved her, she says she loves you, but she also basically refuses to stop having other men in her life? How does one navigate these situations?

Divorce her immediately and demand 100% custody of the children.

I am a future wife and I have such a negative attitude))

Diety of Dew wrote:

He's not lying. The swinger and open relationships are REAL heavy in the PNW

I say its okay as long as you aren't aware of the other people.

Ahh yea, the PNW SSRI addicted, depressed, SJW, fatty, poly/swinger crew.

It's real!

undergiseye wrote:

I live in the PNW and have known Many many people in open relationships or have gone that way and have lots of observations.

First off, it never works for long. Sorry, it just doesn’t. You might meet a couple who have been into it for ten years, but usually it’s children holding it together.

Lots of psychopaths are into this. Expect drama, STDs, ,being stalked, etc.

Lots of mental Illness. Whether the mental illness leads to this or is what causes it, I don’t know.

Those I knew that opened their marriage either were or became extremely selfish people and a shell of themselves.

The only people I’ve heard pursue this happen to be bi polar. It has never and will be never end well.

ghost_coach wrote:

tell us more wrote:

Where do you live?

That answers that... lol.

The swinger friendly PNW... obviously. C'mon, man, you think Pre was the only "poon-hound" runner in these parts? Why do you think Frank visited so often?

You seem to be the one with the insecurities. I have been faithful to my wife since we first met and will continue to do so until the day I die. I would hate to be associated with you and what you seem to think is A-ok. If you are really a swinger, I hope you play out in right field and stay safe..... I would hate to have some of your "partners" end up catching something other than Covid from you. In may day, you would have been called a "dirty old bas****d".

undergiseye wrote:

I live in the PNW and have known Many many people in open relationships or have gone that way and have lots of observations.

First off, it never works for long. Sorry, it just doesn’t. You might meet a couple who have been into it for ten years, but usually it’s children holding it together.

Lots of psychopaths are into this. Expect drama, STDs, ,being stalked, etc.

Lots of mental Illness. Whether the mental illness leads to this or is what causes it, I don’t know.

Those I knew that opened their marriage either were or became extremely selfish people and a shell of themselves.

Very interesting post. I also live in the PNW where polyamory is common, and I have made all of the same observations. Seen marriages dissolve, people's mental illness get worse as a result (of polyamory life, not marriages ending), and I know several people now who have tried it, were very vocal about it and open-minded, who then later went on to say they don't want to ever do it again if they're ever serious about anyone.

To be honest, I have had a variety of relationship styles in my life, and I can tell you, while it is normal to fantasize and think it might be fun to get extra here and there, there is NOTHING better than being in a loving, monogamous relationship with ONE person you love who also loves you. I have had many partners in my life and have had multiple girlfriends at once, and I still stand by this statement 100%. I am in a monogamous relationship right now with no desire to stray, and I would take it any day to some of the previous times in my life of dating, sleeping around, etc.