I'm on marriage number 2 right now (8 years), and we did talk about this. I didn't care if she took it or not as being into genealogy, I can see how a person would like to have a particular identity that they have always known.
However, my wife still had her name from previous husband (due to kids), so she decided to take mine anyway instead of going back to her maiden name. Neither one of us were comfortable with her keeping her ex-husbands name, even if her kids did.
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Yes. She went from 3 letters to a dozen.
No, but an ex wife still uses it!
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No.
No. She's an MD and changing all the certification stuff would have been a royal pain. Plus her last name is relatively unique, and basically would have ended with her. Our kids have hyphenated last names.
a hyphenated last name is like no last name. Couldn't make up our minds, not sure who the dad was, power struggle w/wife, etc...
My wife did not take my last name. I took hers away and made her use mine. That's the way it works around here.
Now she done run off with someone I thought was a homosexual and she won't give my name back. These are the end days , I'm telling you, it's biblical.
'Muricanx wrote:
My wife did not take my last name. I took hers away and made her use mine. That's the way it works around here.
Now she done run off with someone I thought was a homosexual and she won't give my name back. These are the end days , I'm telling you, it's biblical.
Yeah that's big red flag if your wife has a "gay" friend who she hangs out with often and gets too close/flirty. Doesn't change the fact that that the person is a man. Just because he may not be "attracted" to her doesn't mean she can't use him for a sexual fantasy.
No
In Belgium, it is considered very old-fashioned to take your husband's name.
After all, this is the twenty-first century.
The last name for our kids can be chosen: name of the father, name of the mother or a hyphenated combination.
Most people choose the father's last name.
Yes
jcaweiioj fd; wrote:
No. She's an MD and changing all the certification stuff would have been a royal pain. Plus her last name is relatively unique, and basically would have ended with her. Our kids have hyphenated last names.
Why in the world would you give you kids a hyphenated last name? So when they get married are they going to have a double hyphenated last name? Are they supposed to go from John Doe-Smith to John Doe-Smith-Jones?
jcaweiioj fd; wrote:
No. She's an MD and changing all the certification stuff would have been a royal pain. Plus her last name is relatively unique, and basically would have ended with her. Our kids have hyphenated last names.
LOL
No
She is not my property, and the year is 2021
Men are meant to be the leaders of their family.
Do not marry or stay married to a woman who does not eagerly take your name. There is a biological reason the woman takes the man's name in rational culture. It is because the man is the alpha, and the woman is HIS accessory. HE is the prize, not her. If your wife doesn't take your last name, she considers you a beta provider.
My wife did but we were from Kansas and it didn’t really occur to us at the time (12 years ago) that we would do it any other way. Now we talk about ho law we’d probably do it different. I’ve had friends make up a new last name and I love that, to me it’s important a family shares a name, whatever name that might be.
However if you keep your names and then hyphenate your kids name you deserve to be slapped and abandoned by your kids when you’re old.
No.
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