coachquestion wrote:
At what time...if any....is it ok for a parent to contact a coach along the recruiting process. I understand the child should drive the reach out emails and the initial conversations but is it ok once things get more serious (official visits, etc) for a parent to reach out to the coach for an introduction and/or some questions? Thanks.
I have two teenagers, about to go through this. Here's my opinion on this. When kids get to this age, my way of approaching it is to advise them on what to do, then leave it up to them, to do it or not. This time period (pre-college) is the time I feel I need to prepare them to take care of themselves and do for themselves, that they're able to do for themselves. Anything I do for them, that they could be doing for themselves, I always ask myself, would if be better if they did it?
I personally think it makes so sense for me to set my kids up perfectly, for success, unless they're going to buy in to maintaining that success. They need to have skin in the game. I'll help them from here to the moon, as long as their going to be helping themselves along the way.
How that applies to your question: I, personally would encourage my kid as much as possible, to send all the emails, make the phones calls and ask all the questions. Why does a 17 year old need my mouth to do the talking, when they can easily ask the same questions.? We can discuss ahead of time, good ways to approach the situation, key questions to ask. But if it's going to be their game, they need to play it. Usually, that gets it done. If at some point, they just can't get it done and I'm needed to help out, I'll do it. But they need to go hard, and give their full and best effort, first.
Ask yourself, when your kid goes to this college you're trying to set him up at, are you still going to make phone calls for him/her? Still going to call the coach? Still going to make sure they've set their alarm to wake up the morning of the big meet?
Those are just some thoughts I had from your post. Do what's best for your family.