Am I right to be uncomfortable about the nickname my daughter has decided to go by?

rojo wrote:

The Q in LGBTQ wrote:

Second the motion! This actually made me LOL for real.

And the mods deleted the joke. It's a joke people.

I almost always delete that word from the website but in this case it's quite clever.

I put it back up.

OP. The nickname is fine. What I"m most disturbed about is you don't even know what your daughter well enough to know her nickname. Get more involved instead of being an absent parent who occasionally comes in and messes things up.

Cancelling the nickname would be even worse. It would make a big deal of nothing and then overly sexualize everything. Probably the most common nickname in the world is a shortened version of a longer name - ie Rojo for me. And once that caught on, some of my closest friend even shortened that to Roj.

Hey, don't your last name mean 'dick'?

Elvin wrote:

Joykill, the real one wrote:

Not to put the kybosh on all the fun, but let me ask you this:

Would you post your daughter's nickname and her last name on the largest running messageboard in the country for public ridicule?

Of course not. Who would?

Well, maybe a troll. But surely not the father of this girl. Some would surely recognize the girl with that last name and that nickname.

Nobody would do that to their daughter. Not in real life.

I'd like to believe that it's true that no one would post identifiable and potentially embarrassing information about their children on the internet, but I've seen Facebook.

Yes, letsrun has a habit of believing many unrealistic posts here are trolls. My theory is that many people here are geriatric whites from the upper middle class who have never been exposed to the true stupidity of the lower class, which today takes form in posting an unreasonable amount of personal information on the internet.

new at this? wrote:

rojo wrote:

And the mods deleted the joke. It's a joke people.

I almost always delete that word from the website but in this case it's quite clever.

I put it back up.

OP. The nickname is fine. What I"m most disturbed about is you don't even know what your daughter well enough to know her nickname. Get more involved instead of being an absent parent who occasionally comes in and messes things up.

Cancelling the nickname would be even worse. It would make a big deal of nothing and then overly sexualize everything. Probably the most common nickname in the world is a shortened version of a longer name - ie Rojo for me. And once that caught on, some of my closest friend even shortened that to Roj.

Hey, don't your last name mean 'dick'?

Well, you can bet that Fonda Dicks , All State BB player, Moravia, IA 1972 & 73 probably got over it every time the called her name at the state tournament. Wonder what her parents were thinking? Oh, maybe they didnt give two turds about what a bunch of snowflakes think. Probably werent many snowflakes back then. 60s hippies are todays Hillaries and future AOCs.

As long as she doesn't crack the line "Balls! cried the Queen, if I had 2 I'd be King!"

ok funny wrote:

One more issue, when she applies for a professional job, and potential employers Google her and find out everyone calls her balls, that will be a mark against her.

You are getting bad advice. They are either not professional or are self employed. If my firm saw that a potential employee went by the names balls, ,, that would indicate poor judgement.

Is that a Nathan for you reference?

putting my foot down wrote:

Our last name is Balzari. I've just discovered that my daughter is going by a shortened version of her last name as a nickname. Her friends now call her "Balls." I discovered this because a friend of hers saw her from across the street while we were walking home yesterday and to get her attention started shouting "Balls! Hey Balls." I find this to be appalling. She doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks its cute or funny.

What's worse is that my wife knows all about this. When I brought it up to her, she told me that our daughter has been using this nickname for some time now and even has social media accounts with the handle Balls(her soccer number).

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

I see her as leaning into a nickname that others probably were using to insult her (or try to). This disarms it. I'd call it a "ballsy" move.

new at this? wrote:

rojo wrote:

And the mods deleted the joke. It's a joke people.

I almost always delete that word from the website but in this case it's quite clever.

I put it back up.

OP. The nickname is fine. What I"m most disturbed about is you don't even know what your daughter well enough to know her nickname. Get more involved instead of being an absent parent who occasionally comes in and messes things up.

Cancelling the nickname would be even worse. It would make a big deal of nothing and then overly sexualize everything. Probably the most common nickname in the world is a shortened version of a longer name - ie Rojo for me. And once that caught on, some of my closest friend even shortened that to Roj.

Hey, don't your last name mean 'dick'?

And doesn't Rob (rob), short for Robert, also mean to take away, steal, and be without?

Hmmmm.

Sounds like OP needs to grow up.

pills for you wrote:

Be happy your last name isn’t Cuntzari

hahahaha

My surname is Woodcock, my nickname is Timberdick, I'm called it by everyone, I've learnt to live it.

It hasn't disadvantaged me in any way as I earn $250,000 a year, have a model wife and a sub 14:30 5k.

PS - Granted, I do need to work on the 5k though.

Robert Johnson aka Rob Dick 😂😂😂

Film Rep wrote:

Robert Johnson aka Rob Dick 😂😂😂

if he teamed up with the daughter of the OP, what would it be?

"Rob Dick and Balls."

Now we're getting somewhere!

ok funny wrote:

ok funny wrote:

One more issue, when she applies for a professional job, and potential employers Google her and find out everyone calls her balls, that will be a mark against her.

You are getting bad advice. They are either not professional or are self employed. If my firm saw that a potential employee went by the names balls, ,, that would indicate poor judgement.

You are 100% right. This nickname will certainly make it to social media and once its there its there forever. This is a negative for some potential employers. I wouldn't want it on my internet trail.

I am a bit surprised so many here don't understand that.

Be grateful your surname is not Job, and you named her Gudrin, shortened to 'Good'. You are so happy because you think everybody complements her about her work everyday.

She then marries a guy called Richard Head, of course his friends call him Dick, and she decides to go by the hyphenated surnames, his name first.

Film Rep wrote:

Robert Johnson aka Rob Dick 😂😂😂

Could be worse. What if his first name had been Ruben, shortened to "Rub"?

The worst possible thing to do is to seek advice from a place like this.

Mr Balzari, I don't know what your daughter’s first name is, but I can only assume you probably went with Bigda.