Advice my kids Coach seems to hate my wife and I.

Question4 wrote:

How should I go about this situation. My wife and I are originally from New Hampshire we are college sweethearts moved to Texas a couple of years back for work we are both in our 30s. My son started to run cross country after finally realizing football wasn't his thing. He is in the 7th grade now, his first race went well he placed 22nd out of 218 runners. So the issue is I was a runner in college ran ivy league and ran 28:50s for 10,000m and also earned All American a couple of times, I do know a bit about running. I never brought up my creditials people talked about them especially some of the running parents. When I met his coach he sort of had a chip on his shoulder and said glad to have your boy on the team let me coach though. I said okay I am not here to coach anyway. So my wife has noticed he allows other dad's to get on to there kids for slacking but if I do he says something or gives me a look of annoyance and immediately talks about his annoyance to other father's that he allows to help. I lost it on my son the other day when he was completely slacking during practice yes a lot of parents watch and I usually just watch his intervals to see his improvement. Usually he does 400m repeats at 1:18, the other day however he was running 1:45 to 2:00 and jogging with his friends during the intervals so obviously I yelled if you aren't going run get off the course stop wasting your time and hit the splits you know you are capable of. His coach asked if he can give me advice I said if it involves me getting on to my son for screwing off no you can't and he stormed off and continued to complain to another dad who is welcomed to get on to his son anytime he wants who also never ran.

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halftank wrote:

This is kind of hard. I know you want your kid to do well. But being to hard on him early can suck the fun out of running. Your son has to make the decision to be a serious runner. If not you pressuring him can actually make him not like the sport. The kid has to make the decision on if he's going to focus on times and getting better. The coach knows this his job is to guide the kid and motivate him to want to do better. Sometimes coaches don't like you nor do they like the athlete because there human beings. But you have to respect coach and student relationship and let him do his job. So try not to say anything right now to your son while he's training when he starts loosing and wants to do better it will come naturally then he will start paying attention to splits.

Question4 wrote:

How should I go about this situation. My wife and I are originally from New Hampshire we are college sweethearts moved to Texas a couple of years back for work we are both in our 30s. My son started to run cross country after finally realizing football wasn't his thing. He is in the 7th grade now, his first race went well he placed 22nd out of 218 runners. So the issue is I was a runner in college ran ivy league and ran 28:50s for 10,000m and also earned All American a couple of times, I do know a bit about running. I never brought up my creditials people talked about them especially some of the running parents. When I met his coach he sort of had a chip on his shoulder and said glad to have your boy on the team let me coach though. I said okay I am not here to coach anyway. So my wife has noticed he allows other dad's to get on to there kids for slacking but if I do he says something or gives me a look of annoyance and immediately talks about his annoyance to other father's that he allows to help. I lost it on my son the other day when he was completely slacking during practice yes a lot of parents watch and I usually just watch his intervals to see his improvement. Usually he does 400m repeats at 1:18, the other day however he was running 1:45 to 2:00 and jogging with his friends during the intervals so obviously I yelled if you aren't going run get off the course stop wasting your time and hit the splits you know you are capable of. His coach asked if he can give me advice I said if it involves me getting on to my son for screwing off no you can't and he stormed off and continued to complain to another dad who is welcomed to get on to his son anytime he wants who also never ran.

If my grammar sucks sorry voice recorded the text in this post.

dumbassMF wrote:

Question4 wrote:

How should I go about this situation. My wife and I are originally from New Hampshire we are college sweethearts moved to Texas a couple of years back for work we are both in our 30s. My son started to run cross country after finally realizing football wasn't his thing. He is in the 7th grade now, his first race went well he placed 22nd out of 218 runners. So the issue is I was a runner in college ran ivy league and ran 28:50s for 10,000m and also earned All American a couple of times, I do know a bit about running. I never brought up my creditials people talked about them especially some of the running parents. When I met his coach he sort of had a chip on his shoulder and said glad to have your boy on the team let me coach though. I said okay I am not here to coach anyway. So my wife has noticed he allows other dad's to get on to there kids for slacking but if I do he says something or gives me a look of annoyance and immediately talks about his annoyance to other father's that he allows to help. I lost it on my son the other day when he was completely slacking during practice yes a lot of parents watch and I usually just watch his intervals to see his improvement. Usually he does 400m repeats at 1:18, the other day however he was running 1:45 to 2:00 and jogging with his friends during the intervals so obviously I yelled if you aren't going run get off the course stop wasting your time and hit the splits you know you are capable of. His coach asked if he can give me advice I said if it involves me getting on to my son for screwing off no you can't and he stormed off and continued to complain to another dad who is welcomed to get on to his son anytime he wants who also never ran.

If my grammar sucks sorry voice recorded the text in this post.

Obviously your son needs a slap upside the head, but this is 2021 and you need to keep up appearances in public. You are going to have to be more subtle. When he is below par, be cold and distant. When he does what you want then be attentive and effusive with praise.