I disagree with a lot of what you're saying. Long story short - after college I did about 10 yrs of competitive bodybuilding & powerlifting way back the 1980's (won a regional BB title in 1988). Then 25 yrs of competitive running but started back to bodybuilding about 3 yrs ago after having to curtail running due to chronic injuries & post-traumatic OA.
Studies have consistently show that is mainly guys who are attracted by large muscles. Girls might not like the scrawny distance runner look, but they have consistently reported that distance guy +20lbs of muscle is more attractive than distance guy +50. Both though score higher than scrawny distance guy.
We are talking some pretty solid lifts for a guy who you would expect to be largely ST.
And I assume pretty much any fitness guy is doping. The odds are about the same as a 1990s tour de France rider being on EPO.
The "mass monster" look of these modern day pro bodybuilders is a big turn off with women, and generally with most people because of their freakish looks (no surprises there). But a lot of bulk that's aesthetic on a guy attracks quite a few women - not all of course. And if you're short guy, being big & muscular can definitely help in the dating department:
I'm a disciple of Silver Era Bodybuilding (1940s to early 1950s). This was before anabolic steroids were even invented & testosterone hadn't been synthesized as a feasible ester nor patented yet. These guys were incredible with muscular size & aesthetics - all natural. Icons such as the original Hercules, Steve Reeves, Clancy Ross, the "Blonde Hercules" Jack Delinger, the "Smiling Superman" Roy Hillegan...just to name a few. They were the original muscle beach muscle men and a big hit with the women back then & then envy of a lot skinny guys who were tired of getting sand kicked in their face at the beach: