I am update. Ran with X and Y earlier this week. Great run, good times, etc, but I have decided that the anxiety this has afforded me is worth no further worry.
Car
Bought a car today. Was sitting on $60k and crypto earnings so I figure I should just get it done. I barely drive so it's a weird purchase to justify. But hey - it had to get done either way. Maybe will end up being a rushed decision, but at least it is a decision.
Answers to various questions
How did you meet? Weird story. She emailed me asking if I wanted to run with her. I had no idea who X was but decided to try for it. She cited a mutual acquaintance who told her I could be good to run with. I hadn't seen guy in a year so I think it is weird he remembered me. She knows a bunch of other people who know who I am (but not I her), so I guess I am well known for heinous deeds, high crimes, and evil acts >:)
Two types of guys : Definitely don't have much close female friends, the only one is incidentally a buddies gf. Cool distinction as I had not quite noticed this before.
Has she been to your house? No, but it's not like I've invited her. I've been in her apartment complex but not room (although she invited me once, and I don't know why i didn't). My roommate is super weird about covid which makes these things tricky. At some point we talked about meeting up to discuss some cool ideas to work through together (but we have since both been caught up in more tedious things). I own a nice whiteboard....
Are you autistic? No but certainly not neurotypical. I think i have some schizoid and autist traits. My first impression of X was "she's probably autistic". She later said her parents thought she was when she was little. Probably proof I should trust my instincts....
Chances she reads LR? Zero. She doesn't even know what a 'message board' is. Was interested when I explained the schemas of identity on mbs and how this lends itself towards different community dynamics.
Ladder theory/friendzone: Rojo I've been on these boards long enough to know what ladder theory is and that it probably doesn't hold here, which is why I asked for this advice. Ladder theory breaks down in non-neurotypicals, and when the initial male interest isn't sexually motivated. I'm not trusting a nigerian website either.
Other women? bro this feels like the first girl i've ever fallen for. Maybe second but the first doesn't count.
I played up the character of this post as an overanalyzing anxious mess - I'm not quite this bad in reality. I know that telling someone 'how you feel' isn't a good idea but wanted to test exactly how revolting this would be. I've been reading too much Russian literature which motivates these ides; she wants to borrow my copy of Пушкин romantic tragedy Eugene Onegin. The reason I posted wasn't because I didn't know what to do, nor was I looking for the thing to do, but because I needed some "Skin in the Game" to motivate action. Several of my homies may recognize my username, and I'm not going to tell them that I didn't shoot my shot. Now I have people who follow this, a name that can be tarnished, and an audience to please: maybe I can yet make out the footlights.
To quote an obese retarded Greek dramatist : You'll never get what you don't ask for