Breaking up with my gf because I feel like she's not going anywhere in life.

just email her a link to this thread

That's just, like, your opinion, man.

Why did I read this? Here's the answer, I started reading and I thought that I would get to one detail about this situation because there are four paragraphs. I kept thinking, "The useful information will be in the next paragraph," but I never found it.

This is just generic and vague mumbo jumbo that shares your opinion without a single detail. Maybe there is a flaw in your opinion or the reasoning that formed your opinion, but we would never know because you omit any real information. The way you've written this, no one would object to your opinion, thus you will obviously get the affirmation that you desire. Good job.

Get some counseling and maybe take a break.

no one is actually going "anywhere" in life. it is all an illusion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N3N1MlvVc4

If you only said "WTF" at her behavior four times in six months that's pretty good going.

elvid33 wrote:

That's just, like, your opinion, man.

Why did I read this? Here's the answer, I started reading and I thought that I would get to one detail about this situation because there are four paragraphs. I kept thinking, "The useful information will be in the next paragraph," but I never found it.

This is just generic and vague mumbo jumbo that shares your opinion without a single detail. Maybe there is a flaw in your opinion or the reasoning that formed your opinion, but we would never know because you omit any real information. The way you've written this, no one would object to your opinion, thus you will obviously get the affirmation that you desire. Good job.

There is a lot of truth here. I felt the same way - 4 long paragraphs and not a single detail.

What does she do for work? What are her hobbies? At some point you've got to say your goals are achieved. For instance, if she is set in her career, there may not really be anything to work towards. If she likes to travel, its understandable that there would be no goals in that regard as the pandemic is cutting that off quite a bit.

elvid33 wrote:

That's just, like, your opinion, man.

Why did I read this? Here's the answer, I started reading and I thought that I would get to one detail about this situation because there are four paragraphs. I kept thinking, "The useful information will be in the next paragraph," but I never found it.

This is just generic and vague mumbo jumbo that shares your opinion without a single detail.

That's funny I felt the same way.

I don't think you get anywhere in life. I am running for a long time and I always end up where I started. As another smart poster mentioned, it's an illusion.

But you should find somebody for your life to do things together both enjoy. If you think it is not going in the right direction get a new GF.

A lot of people have stagnated or back pedaled in the last 1.5 years. Ever heard of Covid 19?

You should help her make positive changes, not leave her....that is my take but limited detail is provided.

No details, so maybe you're just bored with her?

Most guys would focus on what they have in common with their gfs, rather than launch into never ending monologs.

Like, do you share hobbies and pastimes? Education level? Similar backgrounds? Similar level of physical attractiveness?

A chick once told me she was deterred by guys who dated down and turned one guy down because of that. Maybe that is something to bear in mind if you do end things with her.

You are done and have already moved on.

Most of us here will probably say don't underestimate love because that comes first.

I'm in nyc. A lot of people who 'went somewhere' stayed survived here and the lot of them are miserable, no love but cool title, crazy life. No soul.

Take a hard look in mirror. Be a man and make best choice for you.

"This is just generic and vague mumbo jumbo"

Perhaps the dude has a future as a White House press secretary.

BTW, I flag you for use of an archaic, sexist, culturally insensitive term first employed by the imperialistic British. I once was about to use the term in an corporate email, had a second thought, looked up its origins and then canceled the email before I had my job canceled. As the thought police say:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkbBfqA6-4Y

i beat bekele wrote:

no one is actually going "anywhere" in life. it is all an illusion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N3N1MlvVc4

One might say a Grand Illusion:

is she unwilling to work and contribute financially? Does she not take responsibility for things? do you feel like she wants her bf to also be her father?

I've been there for this type of thing. I get it if this is what you are getting at. But you are not really giving any details, so hard to say what's going on here.

OP.

Do you mean she's not going anywhere professionally?That's what I was thinking you meant.

Well if you are "going somewhere", do you think she'd be a good stay at home mom? If you have kids, you are going to want to have someone that is very qualified to take care of them. And it's expensive, very expensive.

Or do you view her as too immature for that important task?

Without you (or some highly successful partner), where do you see her at age 40?

She doesn't seem to measure up to your high standards? You seem to think a lot of yourself. Why do you consider ambition such an important attribute? I think you might be doing her a favor by moving on.

One reason people may not go anywhere: moving up may mean huge time commitments. I could see being content in a 40 hr a week job vs working 80+ to try to attain a "higher" professional position.

Same thing in sport - a runner may be content training 10 hours a week when they know that getting to the next level, going from sub elite to elite, or untalented joe to subelite, may take 25 hours a week of training. That 15 hours of free time is a lot to give up if that's all the time you have. Sure they can get better at 15 hours a week of training but going from 110 in the half to 107 will not get you anywhere (maybe a place or two better in small town races), it takes a 104 to be subelite.

Given the context, you're probably projecting.