How many of you who are over 35 live with your parents at their home

I lived with my parents until I was 26, but that's was so I could keep running full time and racing without working full time. You only have one shot at being young.

I did get to run at the Trials and then moved out and moved on.

Now I have a cousin-in-law who is in his late 30s and lives with his retired parents in the same house he grew up in.

He lived on his own in an apartment for one year a few years ago and then moved back "home".

He has a college degree and was working steadily up until last year. He quit or lost his job with the covid situation but I don't know his excuses before that. I don't know why he couldn't hack it but it's concerning to me. I think his mom likes him home, but that isn't good.

He says he has no interest in marriage or having children.

He's had girlfriends along the way and I think he is seeing someone now but will not commit to anything.

He seems smart, too. I don't get it.

My buddy moved back in with his parents after his divorce. He was 37. Lived there for 3 years then bought himself a house. He makes 65k so living at home enabled him to save like 30k a year that he otherwise wouldn’t be able to. It made financial sense.

Star wrote:

Now I have a cousin-in-law who is in his late 30s and lives with his retired parents in the same house he grew up in.

He lived on his own in an apartment for one year a few years ago and then moved back "home".

He has a college degree and was working steadily up until last year. He quit or lost his job with the covid situation but I don't know his excuses before that. I don't know why he couldn't hack it but it's concerning to me. I think his mom likes him home, but that isn't good.

He says he has no interest in marriage or having children.

He's had girlfriends along the way and I think he is seeing someone now but will not commit to anything.

He seems smart, too. I don't get it.

Sounds like everyone is happy with the situation. Even if it's not your thing, what's the problem? People have lived with their parents throughout eternity. It's only the past couple hundred years that things really started changing.

Bullchit, most people throughout history grow up, move out and become self sufficient.

runnerboy70 wrote:

Bullchit, most people throughout history grow up, move out and become self sufficient.

Not a sociology or anthropology major, I take it...

My buddy is in his mid-thirties. He had a series of very unfortunate life events, and ended up getting divorced, among other things. His parents live in a very nice estate, and offered to allow him to live in their guest house while he got back on his feet. They pleaded with him to move in. The guest house is roughly 1,400 sq. ft. and nicely furnished. It abuts a pool and gardens. It'd be a very accommodating pad for a bachelor.

He had to much pride. He currently lives in a 300 sq. ft. "flat" in a shady part of town, and he's absolutely miserable and hates the neighborhood.

I do not understand why he doesn't move back to his parents for awhile.

35 is a pretty young age for people to need to take in their parents at their home and take care of them.

So that will encompass almost everyone who had to start providing care for their parents.

just jogging wrote:

38 year old Irishman and living back at my parents house since just before Christmas. In 2020 I was furloughed from April throughout the whole year on reduced salary, the role was in product support. I was then dumped by my then girlfriend and moved back to my folks house. 2021 hasn’t really been much better with finding out recently that I am being made redundant from my role, so it looks like I will be here for some time yet! So at 38, I am single - jobless - own no property, have no children, never been married and living back at my parents. Comments welcomed?

You need to find a girlfriend, move in with her, gain your confidence back, and get a great job. Good luck to you!

I left my parents' home at 17 to go to college and never moved back, but I would have stayed longer if my mom was a nicer person.

I would love for my kids to stay with me forever if they want to!

formerly present wrote:

runnerboy70 wrote:

Bullchit, most people throughout history grow up, move out and become self sufficient.

Not a sociology or anthropology major, I take it...

You're right; he DOES have that going for him, all else aside.

I’m concerned about the guy I was talking about.

I see him changing and making radical posts on social media.

Like I said, he’s not working now and seems to be withdrawing from society.

Not rich (more in the lower middle income bracket/upper lower income bracket), haven't lived with my mom since high school. Sure, I've lived some shady places along the way, ie drug dealers, crackheads, bullet holes in the wall, but I'm proud to say I've been on my own for a very long time.

I think what happened in the '90s is everyone was expected to go to college, get a good job, and live on their own right away.

The economy sucked in 2006 when I graduated college. I'm 37. I lived with my parents for 5 years to save $ and pay off college debt, from 2006 to 2011. I went to seminary to study being a priest for two, decided it wasn't for me. Moved back for 1 year and got my old job back, but got my own apartment in 2014 and have lived my own since then.

I made 25k in 2006 at the Geauga county newspaper (a rich area east of CLE) but the pay was so horrid I had to save $. I voluntarily paid my parents $400/mo. for rent so I could have some pride as I learned how to budget and save $. When I came back from seminary in 2013 to get my old job back I was at 30k and had to live at home again. Luckily I found a job in Columbus the next year paying a bit more and I was able to move out and do well by then.

Nothing at all wrong with living at home, but you might be misremembering about the economy in 2006. It was booming then and the unemployment rate was 4.4% (the lowest it was between 2001-2016), and GDP was still climbing. 2008-2009 is when the economy and employment market began to become tough.