Women I've been dating started lecturing me about running... Dealbreaker?

Betty? Are you dating a 70-year-old?

Dump her and start dating her sister, Barbie.

I can’t say this alone would be a dealbreaker depending on how this conversation developed.

When you mentioned to her that you’re training for your first marathon, does she already know that you’re a serious and competitive runner? Or did she think you’re like a fit guy who is training for their first marathon to cross off your bucket list?

If she thought you’re already a serious, competitive runner, and started giving you advice, that’s really odd. It’ll depend on how she started giving you advice/suggestion in well-intentioned manner or if she stated in know it all way.

But it sounds like she said it in a way that was a huge turn off for you. I’d try to talk to her about it instead of turning this into a bigger deal than it needs to be. Also, if you’re asking about advice on this, I’m not sure if you’re looking for reasons to break off with her. Bc if you’re really into her, a lot of times, people have blinders and ignore the early warning signs.

Pics?

Yes it’s a dealbreaker.

If she is lecturing you, she is probably a woke liberal. Boot that thing!

no one under 70 is named Betty wrote:

Betty? Are you dating a 70-year-old?

I didn't use her real name, genius.

Well let’s hear what X Y and Z were. For instance, “Are you overtraining?”

People should know better wrote:

no one under 70 is named Betty wrote:

Betty? Are you dating a 70-year-old?

I didn't use her real name, genius.

How can we trust any of your story if you would lie about something stupid like that?

And why would you pick an old lady name as your made up name for the girl?

You don't use paragraphs. Do you talk like that to her?

You are made for each other.

Bro. It's not the running. Use paragraphs.

If you’re confident what you’re doing is right this shouldn’t bother you.

It would maybe bother me.

You didn't ask for any advice.

What you're doing works and you're happy with it?

She said you were 'doing things wrong' after 30 seconds of discussion (not enough information to come to that conclusion really).

We need to know what X, Y and Z are.

The biggest thing for me would be that she doesn't run and apparently knows nothing about running, yet tried to advise you.

You’ve been running for 15+ years and National caliber in HS in college.

So 4:05-ish in HS, All-America honors in XC & track in D1 I’m guessing.

My only concern here is why it take you so long to do a marathon and what’s your mileage?

what did you say about your training plan, and what are X, Y, and Z?

its so cold brr wrote:

The biggest thing for me would be that she doesn't run and apparently knows nothing about running, yet tried to advise you.

That's 100% it. It makes me think she either is narcissistic, lacks self-awareness, or doesn't understand that just because you read an article in Runner's World once doesn't mean you know more than someone who has lived in the sport for 15+ years, which itself is an indication of a lot of things to me. If she'd start trying to lecture me on running, it makes me think she might start lecturing me on literally anything regardless of whether she has any clue or not. That's a character trait that would rub pretty much anyone the wrong way very quickly. She's also 33 and has no sign of a serious bf on her fb in the last 5 years or so, so maybe that's an indication... However, like I say, things have been going very well outside of this. But it's also only been about 5 weeks. I don't know. Might continue to test the waters a bit.

Nah, could be just a sporadic hobbyjoggerexplaining.

It feels bad when sb makes the mistake of lecturing you about a topyc you know way more and they are blatantly ignorant - and probably the best thing you can do is just a light remark like "well ok" and let it fade, as it would be a little bit uncfomfortable and complex to explain how little they know and how complex is the thing and so on.

On the other hand, it is likely that you have ever made this mistake as well in a different situation - but maybe you are just not aware of it! Don't overthink it

Thread is useless without x, y, z.

I think there is a difference between someone proffering advice vs being overbearing. My wife, who used to be a runner, would share her pearls of wisdom with me re my training and I would listen, nod, and then go do my workout. It can be helpful to listen to another person as "another set of eyes" can be helpful at times. Ultimately you know yourself best. If you care for this person, you'll blow it off in a kind way, if not, then on to greener pastures.