Girlfriend chatting more than I'd prefer with a guy on instagram

Not a good situation. Give her one good last romping then just cut her off completely. She’ll be left confused and hurt and will remain thinking about you as she monkey branch swings to her next bf. Been where you are before and know it’s better single

I'm not familiar with Instagram, if you add the guy will they both see? That would be a nice little subtle nod to the both of them. If it's just a friendly relationship, they won't care at all. If it's a closer relationship than it should be, it will make them uncomfortable and she'll probably be upset

hmsncn wrote:

I'm not familiar with Instagram, if you add the guy will they both see? That would be a nice little subtle nod to the both of them. If it's just a friendly relationship, they won't care at all. If it's a closer relationship than it should be, it will make them uncomfortable and she'll probably be upset

No, that's weak. You have to sack up and be straightforward. It was unintentional, but you saw the messages and now you have some serious worries that she has been spending a ton of time talking and building a relationship with another dude entirely unbeknownst to you. If the shoe were on the other foot and you were having extended, private conversations with some other woman, I'm sure she'd have some questions too. If she gets super defensive or mad or calls you "controlling" instead of acknowledging that you are justified in your concerns, that should tell you all you need to know.

What are his Prs?

Is your mile faster then his or does he run a time that’s more impressive then yours? You may be okay if you’re faster then him.

How does she know the guy? Is he an old friend? A co-worker? The context matters.

You weren't snooping you stumbled on the relationship. The longer you ignore it the more it will eat away at you. You need to let her know you know and maybe things can be resolved and maybe not.

Talk to her and just tell her what you said above, you were browsing on her ipad and the notification popped up. If she reacts in a weird way just leave it honestly and move on, you should not have to prance around issues like this.

Pics?

Look up hotwifing and enjoy the ride.

At the very least this is odd. At the worst it's betrayal. Either way, I don't think it's sustainable. Draw your own implications from this

Ok, so I am devouring a monster size plate of spaghetti & meatballs with 7 slices of garlic bread right now. Saw this situation, and I gotta say this:

Yikes! wrote:

Talk to her and just tell her what you said above, you were browsing on her ipad and the notification popped up.

And then, after you say that, just BREAK UP WITH HER. It doesn't matter what her reaction is. Get outta there.

Would she be remotely ok if you were doing that with a other chick? HELL NO. And it's not acceptable that she has been doing it.

And - did you have the slightest inkling this way going on? Nope. So now you are always going to wonder what she's up to. That just isn't sustainable. Your doubt, suspicion, distrust, paranoia, and resentment will only grow over time.

You deserve better. Get on with it.

Yeah, break up with her. and then you find out that the guy is gay and has been having an innocuous dialog with her. Won't you feel stupid about reactively pulling the plug on the relationship! Why shouldn't a woman be free to talk to anyone she chooses? Why is that such a threat? Secrecy? Maybe she knows that you just wouldn't understand, and in her mind, there is nothing for you to worry about. So she spares you of knowing about it. Maybe she is more mysterious than you know. Maybe she manages all sorts of hidden 'emotional' connections with others, and she knows that you are too one dimensional and incapable of empathizing with her advanced degree of social engagement. So, go ahead, make a fool of yourself.

Yeah if you're not controlling or jealous then you are probably in the right to be concerned. It doesn't get any better from here. You need to dump that whoore or else you will have the life sucked out of you emotionally.

dump dat hoe!

If you don’t trust your girlfriend then get out now before the doubt and jealousy eat you alive.

It's over bro.

Ol Dirty Hog wrote:

Not a good situation. Give her one good last romping then just cut her off completely. She’ll be left confused and hurt and will remain thinking about you as she monkey branch swings to her next bf. Been where you are before and know it’s better single

This is the correct answer.

Ol Dirty Hog wrote:

Not a good situation. Give her one good last romping then just cut her off completely. She’ll be left confused and hurt and will remain thinking about you as she monkey branch swings to her next bf. Been where you are before and know it’s better single

One last romping? Come on. There are multiple opportunities for insanely emotional breakup romps.

I am a married man and have been for 13 years trust has never been an issue in my marriage. I am going to be straight with you she is 100% interested in the other guy as more then just friends and if he is local chances are she has been physical with the guy. Relationship is probably on a down hill slope my friend.

Humans are not wired to be content with one person to meet their every need emotionally and sexually. Don't worry about it