I sure hope this is a troll post.
I sure hope this is a troll post.
This same thing happened to me once. I challenged him to a feats of strength bench off. Luckily they had a bench in the basement. After benching twice my weight and totally embarrassing him, he forgot about the photo. I soon after took my GF home for a cowboy ride.
I eventually broke up with her and supposedly her uncle tried this same stunt again with her new BF just last year.
EuroVisionary wrote:
mask off wrote:I don't think that is a family I'd want to be around.
I've been letting it sit in my head and you're right. Just think, not a single person actually took OP's side or at least try to empathise.
For lack of better words, they've been emotionally taken hostage by the uncle and cannot imagine any sort of dissidence towards him or his ego, hence their reaction.
That he's the wealthiest makes it easier for him to maintain his power over them.
Extremely high iq and correct take. OP could have handled this particular situation less autistically, sure, but it would no doubt come up again and again. He's lucky to have gotten out early.
You did the right thing.
For me, I couldn’t imagine being told to where a Cowboys jersey for a picture.
david47 wrote:
EuroVisionary wrote:
I've been letting it sit in my head and you're right. Just think, not a single person actually took OP's side or at least try to empathise.
For lack of better words, they've been emotionally taken hostage by the uncle and cannot imagine any sort of dissidence towards him or his ego, hence their reaction.
That he's the wealthiest makes it easier for him to maintain his power over them.
Extremely high iq and correct take. OP could have handled this particular situation less autistically, sure, but it would no doubt come up again and again. He's lucky to have gotten out early.
No, it was childish and petulant, over a shirt, a photo- who cares, its xmas....,, offending the host and obvious head of family, besides skulking off to the bathroom. Seriously, by the time you emerged from your hiding spot, they had already nuanced to her to 'get out', she sent you home early, and they discussed your petulance and rudeness.
If you liked her, and she was the one, you had your life ahead of you to make your mark in the family and earn respect...then call the shots, then say "wear my shirt for the photo" etc etc.
Yet, here you are, 12 months later, crying to the world about her, but still maintaining your stance.
You did the wrong thing, weirdo. Like your degree would have been rescinded or your teammates would have stopped talking to you based on being in that damn photo wearing that gear once? Her uncle saved her from your petty pigheadedness.
These guys are all betas bro! You did the right thing 100 percent, these guys probably get pushed around all the time, you stood up for yourself and that’s worth a hell of a lot!
This reeks of a Penn State family.
If you are still thinking about this, then you already know that you regret your decision.
The uncle might have been a bit overbearing, but it was a sign of acceptance and inclusion that he bought you a gift and made you a part of their family tradition - a bit of harmless fun.
You could have graciously accepted the gift, joined their tradition, and donated the item to the Salvation Army the next day. Instead, you made it into a life-altering situation by refusing to accept the gift and join them.
I graduated from the University of Michigan and live in the state of Ohio. I am well aware of intense college rivalries.
I think you misread the situation and then acted without grace in an immature fashion as you ran from it. I am not surprised she decided to end the relationship.
If getting back with her is a desired option, I would tell her that you overreacted and apologize. This should never have been a major issue and wouldn't have been if you had responded differently.
Well, my 2 cents is anyone who gives enough of a sh!t about college rivalry bs is a primitive human being that I would liken to a cave man. Sounds like the uncle is a caveman and so you are you. Therefor you should arrive at her place unannounced and declare your intentions in a very assertive and aggressive manner.
As a duke grad i would never wear a unc shirt. Absolutely zero chance and if a girl had a problem with it i would be glad to see her go.
i wouldn't be worrying about it five minutes later much less a year later though.
Like someone more or less already said, this reeks of flyover country brainwashed insecure hilljack tribal conformist buffoonery. Adult loyalty to a school that doesn't presently employ you is dumb. Even if you have great memories from going there and the experience changed your life, your ex's silly uncle's act should have been a shining example of how ridiculous such loyalty is in a grown @ss man.
And you know what? You didn't even stand up to him and it doubles your cowardice to go online claiming that you did. You actually ran away from him, which probably brought your ex most of the way to the finish line with you. Standing up to him would have gone like: "Thanks for the gift, man! You really shouldn't have because I can never wear that gear since I am a graduate of X State U. You get it, right? Care to make a wager on the rivalry game this year? Now let's take this group photo and get on with the fun!"
I know it is not Boston College because her uncle is a fan of a state school, but in Massachusetts, there are thousands of obnoxious drunk guys who did not attend college, but are BC fans.
4/10, maybe you can go to the uncle’s school to improve your trolling.
You were an alpha that day wrote:
I think it was worth it and you were completely in the right. You have pride in where you went and there’s nothing wrong with that! Do you think David Ortiz would wear a Yankees sweatshirt for a family photo even if it was just for a second? Absolutely not! Mark Walberg refused to wear a Yankees cap while filming a movie once, sports traditions are just something people should understand. I for one am proud of you!
Not the same situations at all lol
my go to dodge wrote:
Ducking into the restroom is a lame dodge. I would have just told him that I needed to return some videotapes.
Patrick is that you?
You are an idiot.
Win the battle, lose the war
Start dating again.
This is well stated!
I wouldn't have had my photo taken either.