ClubRunnah wrote:
IF there is an accusation and if you are found to be 100% in the clear, there will always be a stain on your name and reputation. People remember, "Oh yeah, didn't X say he made a pass at her or something?" They rarely remember the outcome.
This.
As a 20-something male coach of college women I was accused by someone I didn't know (a woman not on my team) of acting improperly. Though the accusation was factually false--the woman was either badly mistaken or simply crazy--and hence could not be proved, the mere fact that I was accused meant that I lost my team (a team I had started, actually) and ultimately had to leave town. But that was 30+ years ago and eventually I *was* able to find coaching employment at other colleges.
Fast forward to the last few years. A good friend and longtime women's coach had left the sport for a couple years, missed it, and applied for and was hired for a position (coaching men and women) across the country. Before he started his duties, that college received an email from one of his former athletes (who'd been stalking him and his girlfriend/fiancee), accusing him of improprieties at his previous school. She also sent an email to the members of his prospective new team.
Now, it turned out that this woman included verifiable lies in her emails--suggesting, for instance, that there'd been multiple Title IX complaints against the guy, when in fact the Title IX office at his previous school sent a letter saying that he'd never been complained about--but *the mere fact of the accusation* meant that his new school "encouraged" him to accept a settlement and leave the position. And because this is the Age of the Internet, that accusation will never go away and this guy, a top D1 coach with multiple all-Americans and just a great person, will never be able to coach again. It's a genuine loss for the sport.
He and I have coached hundreds, if not thousands, of women over the years and the vast majority were wonderful people. But in fact it only takes one crazy, or jealous, or simply mistaken individual to ruin a coach's career, and anything a coach can reasonably do to prevent that situation is a good idea IMO.