Went out with a woman and she told me she cannot stand silence.

Deer God wrote:

Went out with a 37 yo off tinder. Seemed like a fine woman over all. Did tell me, however, that she cannot stand silence if she's with another person, like, if she is in the presence of another human being, at least one of them should be talking at all times, and she thought it was very strange if a person didn't have anything to say. I took this as essentially an admission of insanity and don't think there will be a second date, but maybe I'm overreacting? What do you guys think?

Not sure it's insanity, but it could be very uncomfortable for you if you enjoy some peace and quiet even just every once in a while. So, there's a moment sweet sweet silence, and she has to ruin it with her yapping?

Would be a deal breaker for me. I don't need that kind of neediness in my life.

Well you did say she was a woman.

Sounds like a super extrovert. And yes I do consider extroverts to be patently insane

Come on, man.

Tell her to keep a mask over that yapper.

A soundproof mask.

Hardloper wrote:

Sounds like a super extrovert. And yes I do consider extroverts to be patently insane

She is not necessarily an extrovert. There are people like this who enjoy solitude very much but when they are with people they talk excessively, sometimes due to anxiety.

Yeah, didn't mean literally insane, but it kind of blew me away that someone her age wouldn't understand that feeling the need to talk every second is going to be a major turnoff to most guys, and plenty of women for that matter. I told her that guys typically aren't like that at all, and she seemed kind of surprised, which was also an indication to me she either has little social experience or just doesn't pay attention at all... But then how could you if you were busy yapping all the time...

IDK, might hold out long enough to see if it's worth putting up with a couple hours per week for some "relaxation." Kind of doubt it though.

Certainly not someone I could stand to be with for long. Maybe she thinks you're strange too. Hope she finds someone who likes talking or listening all the time.

I'm a woman and if a man told me that it'd be a deal breaker, no way could I put up with that. Not overreacting at all, wtf is wrong with people who think they have to fill every second with sound? I don't get it.

Your instincts are correct. Spending an extended period of time around someone like that sounds like torture.

I mean she's a 37 year old woman on Tinder....

Now you know why she is single at 37.

The need to fill up every single second with speech is usually an indicator of discomfort, nervousness, and unease.

Couples that are truly comfortable with each other can and will spend long periods of time together in silence, while simultaneously feeling at ease; that's an indicator of compatibility, notof boredom or vapidness.

Get a nose ring , like Ezekiel Elliott and your breathing will generate a whistling noise all the time.

That's horrible. You should play her this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FB9GYkIT3E&ab_channel=antoninodavi

I told her that guys typically aren't like that at all, and she seemed kind of surprised, which was also an indication to me she either has little social experience or just doesn't pay attention at all...

Or, she found your criticism of her behaviour and mansplanation of how guys feel to be rude, but she has the tact to disagree in a more subtle way. Doesn't sound like she'll be wanting a second date anyway, so your question is moot.

G Cup wrote:

I told her that guys typically aren't like that at all, and she seemed kind of surprised, which was also an indication to me she either has little social experience or just doesn't pay attention at all...

Or, she found your criticism of her behaviour and mansplanation of how guys feel to be rude, but she has the tact to disagree in a more subtle way. Doesn't sound like she'll be wanting a second date anyway, so your question is moot.

Thank you for your womansplanation.

Well that leaves you both in a bit of a catch 22.

Tinder is for left overs and desperate men.

Joseph Heller wrote:

Well you did say she was a woman.

And an honest woman.

Women feel more comfortable with steady noise.

Usually they do most of the talking, so that's easy.

My wife needs the TV on all of the time which avoids total silence.

If you want peace and silence, go for a run.

And don't tell me you listen to music when you run, because that's wrong.