So I was blind sided today with a phone call from an investigator. He informed me that I had been in contact with a girl that was supposedly a minor. We met on a dating site which you have to be 18 to use and apparently went from there. I honestly don't know who this girl is or what is going on. Im honestly scared out of my mind and I need some advice.
It's probably a scam for $$. These things are very common. If the police show up-- then it's real.
Don't talk to them if they do.. get a lawyer.. you know the drill.
Stop taking to this person immediately. Both the girl and the *investigator". Its probably a scam to be honest. If police show up then you know it's real and in that case you shut your damn mouth. And I mean that literally. Yes. Actually. Literally The only word that can come out of your mouth is lawyer until you see yours and then speak to them. Do not say a single word to the police besides the word lawyer. No. Matter. What.
You need to realize every single thing a police does at contact is trying to get you to admit guilt or culpability. They will do so many things. Have so many tricks to manipulative you into this. Including making you think you're not really talking to a cop. ( Oh it's just a receptionist at the police station for example). Including saying they'll charge you with less If you talk. Including telling you you need to answer at least some certain questions. Including lying to you to coerce you into talking. They aren't your lawyer and they can lie about what your rights are. You have the right to remain silent. Do it. This situation is nothing like you see on tv or what you have in your mind. Lawyer.The f. Up. Or face more jail time. Period. Full stop. End of discussion.
I looked the investigator up and he seems legit. I had no knowledge whatsoever that she was a minor. Like I said, to even be on this website you must be 18. If this is real what are my chances of winning this case?
If a police officer comes to your house. What do you say? Lawyer. Do not answer a single question. Do not even say your name. Or even better. Say nothing. If they have a warrant they'll be forced to state it after your silence. In that case yes, comply. And only be silent or say lawyer.
Private investigator?
Or police? If so why would they just call you? That doesn't seem normal. How do they have your number? How do you know it isn't a person just impersonating that investigator?
Don't answer any calls from this person ever again. No more speaking to them. If they have a warrant they will come to you. Otherwise. Say nothing to them.
I googled "what if someone lies about their age online" and lots of relevant threads came up that seem promising for you.
The gist is if you were under impression she was over 18. And that's clear in the messages. As long as it was only online you have a better chance of being ok through this. You couldn't have known she was under 18.
Some guy on the phone tells you he is an investigator. And the name checks out on an internet search. Wow!
I got a call yesterday from the Social Security Administration yesterday telling me that my SSN was under investigation for fraudulent activities. It’s a scam.
Just because he tells you that’s his name is no proof that’s who he is. You only have to worry if you go to meet her and Chris Hanson from NBC answers the door.
Is the investigator telling you that you are required to pay a fine in order to avoid prosecution, and that Amazon gift cards are the only acceptable payment method?
I watched Perry Mason wrote:
I got a call yesterday from the Social Security Administration yesterday telling me that my SSN was under investigation for fraudulent activities. It’s a scam.
I was about to post the exact same thing. I have received that call from them several times over the past year.
I have read about these sorts of things and would bet heavily it's a scam. The police would not call you on the phone for something like this. They'd be at your door showing a badge.
It's weird you're all trying to help him get away with a sex crime involving a minor but hey whatever it's LRC.
6.5/10
It doesn’t matter how old you think she was , all that matters is how old she is. If you are sending Dick pics to a minor it’s a sexual misconduct offense in every state . You are probably looking at a year in jail and being a registered sex offender for life. The cops are probably getting a search warrant for your phone and computer . If they find any child pornography on it you are probably facing decades in prison .
im a judge wrote:
It doesn’t matter how old you think she was , all that matters is how old she is. If you are sending Dick pics to a minor it’s a sexual misconduct offense in every state . You are probably looking at a year in jail and being a registered sex offender for life. The cops are probably getting a search warrant for your phone and computer . If they find any child pornography on it you are probably facing decades in prison .
Hear that? That's the sound of OP smashing his cell phone with a hammer.
scaredtodeath wrote:
So I was blind sided today with a phone call from an investigator. He informed me that I had been in contact with a girl that was supposedly a minor. We met on a dating site which you have to be 18 to use and apparently went from there. I honestly don't know who this girl is or what is going on. Im honestly scared out of my mind and I need some advice.
Did this happen in Tennessee? I had this exact same thing happen there and the “detective” on the phone gave me the name of a sex crimes investigator who popped up on the google search as working at that police station. The numbers were from the area as well. However, when I called the actual police station, they told me that investigator no longer worked at the department the caller said he did and that this was a scam they’d heard of before - they even posted a warning about it on their official web site when I looked more into it. Next that “detective” is going to put you in touch with the dad or someone close to the family - willing to “work this out” (ask for money) without “involving the police” by claiming they need money for their daughters institutionalization/therapy bills, oh, and the property damage resulting from the domestic disturbance caused when they found your convo in the daughters phone. Luckily that’s when I double checked with the actual police department ...do not respond to their outreach again, this is text book scam.
I’m kind of disappointed that this is a scam
Anybody else?
Step one whenever you get a cold call from someone claiming to be in law enforcement is to call back on the main line for their department. Step two, if they are in fact legit law enforcement, is to get a lawyer involved before you say a word to anyone if you are the target of the investigation. Beyond keeping you from saying something stupid to law enforcement, a good criminal defense attorney can do a lot to make sure that all your electronic media is properly preserved so you do not get dinged for obstruction of justice just because you set your emails to be deleted after 30 days, etc.
I will say that scams are getting really sophisticated. I had a check stolen out of the mail. Someone then tried to cash a $6,500 fake check on my account. My bank caught it, but then the scammers called me claiming to be my bank's fraud department and tried to get my SSN and pin. I hung up on them and called the main number for my bank and found out it was a scam. Never trust a cold call these days. Always call back on a main number and verify.
scaredtodeath wrote:
So I was blind sided today with a phone call from an investigator. He informed me that I had been in contact with a girl that was supposedly a minor. We met on a dating site which you have to be 18 to use and apparently went from there. I honestly don't know who this girl is or what is going on. Im honestly scared out of my mind and I need some advice.
Dude, some here are saying it is "probably" a scam. Nope. It is 100% for sure a scam. No worries. Just stop answering that call.
the only way this scam works is if you've sent a bunch of d picks to random girls you have never actually met. so the original poster probably needs to reconsider how many d picks he has out there for random people because it's probably all dudes who may eventually try to scam you that are asking for them.