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Needing Direction wrote:
I never thought I would be asking the LetsRun message boards for insights on a topic like divorce, but here we go...
My wife and I have two elementary school aged kids and recently built a house together. After just a couple of months living in it, she claims to have never loved me, regrets marrying me, and wants a divorce. We've been together for 10 years and moved a couple of times. She claims to want to be civil, so I am pushing towards mediation but now she is stalling. She knows when we divorce, there is no way either of us can keep the house. I make about 73% of our combined income and the mortgage is in my name. She is not thinking this through because she wants to "share" the house and take turns living in it or her living in the basement for the short term. I need the space to heal and to move on and there is no way I want to continue to live under the same roof as her. I am concerned for the kids- we moved into a house they thought would be long term, but now it is going to most likely go. We've agreed on 50/50 for custody, but I'm concerned she's going to try to really hit me on child support now to retaliate for the house having to go. I honestly don't want the house and would love to downsize, especially with child support in my future.
Any insights on what I can do here? Who the hell is living with their ex after divorce? She clearly realizes she won't be able to afford a nice place to live on her own and is trying to delay. We've tried counseling, there is no going back now.
What's a wife? That sounds like an annoying name. So you call the person you're dating a " wife "... Wow that's so annoying.
How'd this work out?
Even if this is a troll job continue the story, don't leave us hangin.
To Everyone Who Contributed (both seriously and not):
Update: I am now officially divorced. Getting a lawyer was key to making this happen without this situation becoming a total loss. I am upset that it ended, but so many things I did to make this work out of loyalty and respect for the institution of marriage ended up being me ignoring serious red flags.
I move out in a month and the house is sold. Hoping my children continue to do well, as it is surprising how well they are doing.
Hard at times not to feel like a failure with having a divorce now part of my story, but I am so thankful for running and what it's done for me over the course of my life. Looking forward to my college teammates throwing a weekend for me soon, which through all of this the guys have been instrumental for my well-being.
Needing Direction wrote:
To Everyone Who Contributed (both seriously and not):
Update: I am now officially divorced. Getting a lawyer was key to making this happen without this situation becoming a total loss. I am upset that it ended, but so many things I did to make this work out of loyalty and respect for the institution of marriage ended up being me ignoring serious red flags.
I move out in a month and the house is sold. Hoping my children continue to do well, as it is surprising how well they are doing.
Hard at times not to feel like a failure with having a divorce now part of my story, but I am so thankful for running and what it's done for me over the course of my life. Looking forward to my college teammates throwing a weekend for me soon, which through all of this the guys have been instrumental for my well-being.
I am glad it worked out. You shouldn’t be down; she was the one that initiated the divorce, and you are the one that wanted to make things work as much as possible. And there are women out there who are in your same shoes and will be ready to date when you are. My only 2 cents going forward is to protect against her turning your children against you. Many divorced women constantly feed their children a shocking amount of bad stuff about their dad to turn the kids against him, often times it works.
Needing Direction wrote:
To Everyone Who Contributed (both seriously and not):
Update: I am now officially divorced. Getting a lawyer was key to making this happen without this situation becoming a total loss. I am upset that it ended, but so many things I did to make this work out of loyalty and respect for the institution of marriage ended up being me ignoring serious red flags.
I move out in a month and the house is sold. Hoping my children continue to do well, as it is surprising how well they are doing.
Hard at times not to feel like a failure with having a divorce now part of my story, but I am so thankful for running and what it's done for me over the course of my life. Looking forward to my college teammates throwing a weekend for me soon, which through all of this the guys have been instrumental for my well-being.
Unfortunately, as I said four months ago, you've condemned both you and your wife to an eternity in hell.
Make it a great weekend.
Ignore crazy people. Move on and be a better man.
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Needing Direction wrote:
My wife and I have two elementary school aged kids and recently built a house together. After just a couple of months living in it, she claims to have never loved me, regrets marrying me, and wants a divorce.
No. This is not a valid reason to divorce. She needs to go to counseling herself alone and figure out why she allowed herself to have 2 children and build a house with someone she “never loved.”
I agree. Love is not just a noun; it is also a verb. One can will to love.
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