Potentially transferring

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3 years ago 10/19/2020 12:10pm EDT

Hey guys. I am a freshman at a pretty solid university and am considering transferring. The school is great, the teammates are great, and the coach is awesome, but it is far from home and it is hitting me harder than I had expected. I have suffered from depression and have not had that to any sort of the same extent previously. It has caused me to run poorly as well. This is by far the worst season I've ever had and would enjoy transferring to the school I'm thinking about going to, but I really respect and admire my current coach. He did a lot to get me here and I don't want to just blow him off now. If I do go ahead with the transfer process, should I give it until near the end of the year to start talking to him about it or get on it a lot sooner? Obviously, if I start talking to the other coach, he's going to have to give notice to my current school and all that. Does anyone have experience with this or any advice?

3 years ago 10/19/2020 12:19pm EDT

re: Anyone have advice?

If you REALLY respected your coach you would have ALREADY spoken with him and not come to a message board for advice.

If you are leaving, then your coach needs to replace you. If you are on scholarship, HE NEEDS TO KNOW YESTERDAY so he can get to recruiting which is in full swing.

Once you read this post, if you haven't texted your coach for a meeting within 10 seconds, you don't really respect him at all.

3 years ago 10/19/2020 12:31pm EDT

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I don't want to rush into anything, though. I see what you're saying but also I want to talk to him with a clear head.

3 years ago 10/19/2020 12:42pm EDT

re: Anyone have advice?

It sounds like you like the school. You spoke highly of the team and coach. It is still only October. I felt the same way at this time my freshman year, so I understand where you're coming from. Being far from home for an extended period of time for the first time in your life is difficult, but it certainly gets better. Go home for thanksgiving, and take some time for yourself. College is a big adjustment to make, and I'm sure it's much different under covid. It has only been 2-3 months. I would advise you talk to someone you trust, could be your coach, a teammate, a friend from home, or your parents about how you're feeling. You're not alone, lots of people feel the same way at this time. Ultimately you have to do what is right for you, but in my experience the adjustment to college life took 6-7 months before feeling like I was in the right place.

3 years ago 10/19/2020 12:59pm EDT

re: Anyone have advice?

also, you CAN'T talk to "the other coach" without first being in the transfer portal, which will require your coaches approval. You don't want your coach hearing from compliance that you have requested to enter the transfer portal without consulting him first.

Again, if you RESPECTED your coach, you would have already gone to him.

Sounds like you want to be able to speak to another school, find a safe landing spot, THEN notify your school and coach. That is the EXACT REASON the transfer portal was created. To stop kids from violating NCAA rules by reaching out to other schools without permission from their current school.

You sound like a nice kid. You sound like you have some things going on. As another poster said, speaking to people will help. You are neither the first nor last person to have these feelings, and perhaps your coach that you respect has some experience and perspective. But the longer you wait to give him a heads up about your thoughts, the more you potentially making the situation worse instead of better.

If you are home sick and not running well, your current coach may be glad to help you move along. NObody wants an unhappy athlete in their program.

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