healthy dude wrote:
Where do you hang out? We woukd all like to follow you around and yell at you for doing everything we don't agree with. Maybe you smoke or drink or eat bad. Maybe you have texted while driving. Maybe you don't always treat your friends right. Maybe you are gay and I disagree with that lifestyle. Psychiatrists are weirdos.
Please don't respond to him.
two cents Mom wrote:
I heard her tell her daughter repeatedly " shut up" the child ( about 8) kept repeating she wanted an item. My friend confronted her, and she told her to mind her own business, and that the child had been acting up all day. I know it's not against the law to tell your daughter repeatedly to shut up, she wasn't hitting her or anything, just telling her to shut up. Was my friend wrong? My friend also told the lady she was a psychiatrist and she shouldn't yell at a child like that. Do you think she was out of line?
Not appropriate for someone to question someone's parenting unless the child is in danger. It is entirely possible to keep one's opinion to oneself.
There's a word for people like your friend - "Karen".
Friend needs to mind her own business.
Unless the kid is in obvious danger you should STFU and mind your own business. I dont know what it is with people these days that think they have parenting figured out, even when they dont have kids. They think they have a right to tell others how to parent etc...
I remember one time we were out to eat with our son when he was 3, we ordered burgers for each of us and my wife and I each got a chocolate malt. Some couple saw us being served and decided to come over and tell us we were rude and bad parents not to order a malt for our son and instantly offered him to buy him one. I told them to mind their own damn business as I started splitting up my malt into a extra cup that I had requested so that I could specifically give my son some malt.
You dont know the whole story so STFU is the best advice. I would never tell my kids to 'shut up' (I wouldnt use that language) but its not my kids.
party like it's 1859. wrote:
Your friend better not actually be a psychiatrist. Anyway, pretty sure that mother beat the snot out of the kid later on and used your friend's intervention as a catalyst.
Translation of your "pretty sure": Pretty sure - not having the slightest clue. Possessing absolutely no idea. Utterly clueless.
Usage: You are pretty sure the moon is made of green cheese.
ReplierMan wrote:
The original post and replies scream troll post, but I will bite.
She was wrong to comment. If she is actually worried about the child's safety, she needs to call the police. All she did was make the mom more angry and therefore endangered the child even more. When someone is driving aggressively and you honk or gesture at them, do they tend to realize their faults and slow down? Or do they double down and try to make a point?
There is an anecdotal reason I am responding to this post as well: my wife was in the grocery store about 10 years ago with my daughter (then 3 years old), and she was in the same aisle as another woman who was cursing into her mobile phone. Just terrible language, and very loud. My wife asked her to please not curse around our daughter. The lady went ballistic and almost attacked my wife, had a store manager not stepped in to help. They had to call the police, although my wife didn't press any charges.
So if you find yourself in this position, do not engage the person. If you think their child is in danger, make a phone call to the authorities and be prepared to back up your claim.
Or, because it is 2020, you could just film it and post it to Twitter because that is what seems to be popular these days.
Ok, but what is the crime? 911 call; hello 911, yes, a lady is telling her daughter to shut up at the store, repeatedly" 911 ok, we will be send an officer out immediately, NOT. That's not a crime like l told her.
Obvi wrote:
party like it's 1859. wrote:
Your friend better not actually be a psychiatrist. Anyway, pretty sure that mother beat the snot out of the kid later on and used your friend's intervention as a catalyst.
Translation of your "pretty sure": Pretty sure - not having the slightest clue. Possessing absolutely no idea. Utterly clueless.
Usage: You are pretty sure the moon is made of green cheese.
Exactly!!
Are you serious? Police are not responding to a crazy liberal who doesn't want a parent disciplining a child.
I just love this country. You have half the people in this country telling the other half how they should run their lives and believe in the same things as they do. And then you have the other half going around and giving the finger to those who want to "intrude" in their lives. No wonder this country is so screwed up. How about all of us just minding our own business, since we all have lots of things on our plate that need attention. No need to spread ourselves thin and try and get involved in other people's lives.
First rule of Walmart shopping: mind your damn business.
two cents Mom wrote:
ReplierMan wrote:
The original post and replies scream troll post, but I will bite.
She was wrong to comment. If she is actually worried about the child's safety, she needs to call the police. All she did was make the mom more angry and therefore endangered the child even more. When someone is driving aggressively and you honk or gesture at them, do they tend to realize their faults and slow down? Or do they double down and try to make a point?
There is an anecdotal reason I am responding to this post as well: my wife was in the grocery store about 10 years ago with my daughter (then 3 years old), and she was in the same aisle as another woman who was cursing into her mobile phone. Just terrible language, and very loud. My wife asked her to please not curse around our daughter. The lady went ballistic and almost attacked my wife, had a store manager not stepped in to help. They had to call the police, although my wife didn't press any charges.
So if you find yourself in this position, do not engage the person. If you think their child is in danger, make a phone call to the authorities and be prepared to back up your claim.
Or, because it is 2020, you could just film it and post it to Twitter because that is what seems to be popular these days.
Ok, but what is the crime? 911 call; hello 911, yes, a lady is telling her daughter to shut up at the store, repeatedly" 911 ok, we will be send an officer out immediately, NOT. That's not a crime like l told her.
That was my point, entirely. That is why I am against engaging and why I wrote, "be prepared to back up your claim." There is also nothing illegal about yelling obscenities into your phone - or maybe there is, but probably not police-worthy - so in retrospect my wife regrets having said anything.
TL;DR - If the kid is not in direct danger, mind your own business. If the kid is in direct danger, call the authorities and have a good reason for calling them.
Scholar Expert wrote:
Are you serious? Police are not responding to a crazy liberal who doesn't want a parent disciplining a child.
I agree. Please see my response directly above, which is why I am against engaging this person.
as a parent, mind your own business wrote:
Unless the kid is in obvious danger you should STFU and mind your own business. I dont know what it is with people these days that think they have parenting figured out, even when they dont have kids. They think they have a right to tell others how to parent etc...
I remember one time we were out to eat with our son when he was 3, we ordered burgers for each of us and my wife and I each got a chocolate malt. Some couple saw us being served and decided to come over and tell us we were rude and bad parents not to order a malt for our son and instantly offered him to buy him one. I told them to mind their own damn business as I started splitting up my malt into a extra cup that I had requested so that I could specifically give my son some malt.
You dont know the whole story so STFU is the best advice. I would never tell my kids to 'shut up' (I wouldnt use that language) but its not my kids.
I bet your kids never shut up!
At a takeout counter in Boston at 10pm, with my 9 year old, when a parent tried to tell me it is far too late for a kid that age to be up. We are from Pacific time zone and on vacation so it was dinner time for us. People need to mind their own business and worry about themselves.
Obvi wrote:
party like it's 1859. wrote:
Your friend better not actually be a psychiatrist. Anyway, pretty sure that mother beat the snot out of the kid later on and used your friend's intervention as a catalyst.
Translation of your "pretty sure": Pretty sure - not having the slightest clue. Possessing absolutely no idea. Utterly clueless.
Usage: You are pretty sure the moon is made of green cheese.
Please tell me what life is in a lily white suburb. Where moms/homemakers are made of sugar and spice and the children grow up well adjusted.
Also, back up your response with that number of black Facebook friends you have. That's always a solid defense.
Presume they meant the authorities as in social services or whatever your equivalent is there. Child services?
If you are ever truly concerned about something happening, film it covertly and then send it to the relevant authorities. If they are in a store they most likely will have either paid with a card or apple pay or they may have parked under CCTV. There will be a way to find them. If it is just a verbal account from you it is less likely to be investigated. Personally I wouldn't take it to the police as I think it is more likely that an account would be taken and it would sit in a file and not be actioned. Whereas if you send direct video evidence to child services they are slightly more likely to do something.
Use protonmail and a VPN if you are concerned about your own involvement maybe.
This is only if you think the child is truly being abused.
Not for a child being told off in an appropriate way.
The best thing to do is distract the kid from whatever they want. Open your phone and turn on a video of Bekele running on youtube or something. They will be stunned(may even inspire the girl to grow up to be a better person and runner). The kid won't give a fukk about whatever it is it wanted and the parent wouldn't have to look like a moran in front of everyone
Ha, honestly not far off, at least my oldest. But I prefer the 'shut your mouth' to 'shut up'.
shut your mouth and shut up mean the same thing
When a parent finds the need to say "shut up" to a child multiple times, they have lost their composure and are acting like the child. The reality is this: What damaging things that dysfunctional parents want to say to their kids at home is their assumed prerogative. They shouldn't do it, but nobody will stop them. But in public, it becomes my business and anyone else's who feels that the parent is behaving untowardly or completely wrong to their child or children. The first time I made it my business was at the Pearl Harbor Navy Exchange...I was 10. A dad was browbeating his daughter excessively. So i walked over to their aisle and stared/glared at the Dad until he turned and asked if i had a problem. Then I just walked away. While working at a 7-eleven while in grad school, a tattooed dad got mad at his kid and threatened to slap him upside the head. I firmly told him, "not in my store you won't" He threatened to jump through over the counter and kick my ***. However, his child did not get hit in the store. I come from a family that had an abusive Marine dad. There is no way I will tolerate in public parents who make their kids feel even half of what I did. No. It's not happening. I will step in every time and I think the friend was 100% correct in doing so. If you can't parent properly within visible society, then it's society's job to right your wrong, verbally, through DHS, through CPS, or through police intervention. End of story.
Sham 69 wrote:
shut your mouth and shut up mean the same thing
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