We've been longtime friends since college and would chat on FB a lot. But when I asked her out she turned me down twice. I still really like her, how can I win her heart?
We've been longtime friends since college and would chat on FB a lot. But when I asked her out she turned me down twice. I still really like her, how can I win her heart?
You can't. Sorry.
You’ve been put in the friend zone. Google it. You’re welcome!
I would have guessed that she would have changed her mind after the first rejection.
You just need to keep asking.
Think about it this way: basic statistics tells us that you have a 50/50 chance of getting turned down each time you ask. There are two possible answers: "yes," and "no," and you will receive one of those two answers each time you ask, ergo a 1/2 chance of being told no.
The odds of getting turned down twice in a row, then, is (1/2)*(1/2), or 1/4. So getting turned down twice goes against the odds, but isn't unthinkable. But then the odds of getting turned down three times in a row are (1/2)^3, or 1/8. Four times in a row 1/16. Ten times 1/1024. And so on.
The point I'm making is that if you ask enough times, it pretty much becomes statistically impossible that you'll get rejected every single time. Just keep on it.
Wait until she contacts you on a Friday or Saturday night. Then abruptly blow her off saying “Hey sorry can’t chat now...gotta a date tonight.”
Then lay low. She doesn’t need any details. Let her stew over it. See if she starts asking about it or seems jealous.
Win some and lose some...move on. Way too many fish in the sea to get caught up in one girl.
Remember, everyone likes their own name and they like to be addressed joyfully and with compliments.
"Your beauty is bright and calm as the Moon,
How about Mezza for two?"
See if you can score it big and get invited to tea with her parents. Perhaps you can spend time together with mutual friends in the green and blue glow of the cafes, in the breeze-cooled night over Turkish coffee.
Stay fresh. Be seen as current and sociable, trustworthy and of good humor. Then you will have a share in the hype. Your songbird will chirp back to you. Opportunities are built atop other foundations. Sometimes the streams will dry up. Then, it is gone,
perhaps sometimes only for a season, but gone surely, for now.
Follow your intuition. The vibe has to be right, it cannot be forced, but it can be fostered. Know yourself and play to your own strengths.
Listen to an Old man river! You have asked her out , if she doesn' t respond "Yes, that would be nice! " then just move on , there are plenty of delicious women with a good brain that fancy you!
Also, these days everyone prizes their freedom and flexibility. It is mutual so you must give them the opportunities, as well. The birds will be working and the birds will be singing. Courtship is part of the strivings of life. Here you must endow your speech with the romantic option. Then you can win her mind, too. The heart is nourished by imagination and splendor. Ah, the strivings of life. Much work and adjustment goes towards achieving the symphony. Then we are like the river of goodness, wide and embracing, strong and generous.
You were turned down because she does not want to go on a date with you. This could be for any number of reasons, many of which have nothing to do with you. You cannot change her mind for her. Instead of figuring out how to win her over, it would be more productive to use this as an opportunity to take "no" for an answer.
ask her out one more time , and say you won't take no for an answer .
Follow her around for a couple of days but don't let her see you.
She knows that you’re not strong enough to pipe her good.
Get better at that.
runhealthy wrote:Win some and lose some...move on. Way too many fish in the sea to get caught up in one girl.
That's your answer right there!
"Youth is wasted on the young."
Of course, there are other fish in the sea.
However, remember that girls test guys. One of the ways they test is
to turn us down. Yes, they do turn down guys they like to check them.
In fact, in many cases, they are more likely to turn down guys they like and date guys, they do not!
I wanted females my friends did not want to date! I could not get them to go out with me. Some girls I broke up with wanted to date my friends. Go figure.
There are situations where the girl and guy will date each other for three weeks
and stay married for 30-40 years. It depends.
But, if you want a girl, just keep on asking. If she says no, understand that's the game of dating. Move on for a while, then come back again later! I will not give you my age. But I am over 50.
I went back and looked at my high school yearbook. Man, there were a lot of babes I totally missed. I did not even see them. I'm sure college was the same way.
Everyone is cute in high school. It's the nature of the beast. College is more of the same.
Please regard that as truth. I wish I'd known it.
Elvin wrote:
You just need to keep asking.
Think about it this way: basic statistics tells us that you have a 50/50 chance of getting turned down each time you ask. There are two possible answers: "yes," and "no," and you will receive one of those two answers each time you ask, ergo a 1/2 chance of being told no.
The odds of getting turned down twice in a row, then, is (1/2)*(1/2), or 1/4. So getting turned down twice goes against the odds, but isn't unthinkable. But then the odds of getting turned down three times in a row are (1/2)^3, or 1/8. Four times in a row 1/16. Ten times 1/1024. And so on.
The point I'm making is that if you ask enough times, it pretty much becomes statistically impossible that you'll get rejected every single time. Just keep on it.
In theory yes, but in reality, not at all. Attractiveness, build, sense of humor, charisma, etc can majorly skew this in either direction.
Since this is the second time she has declined, I would move on. Perhaps if your relationship/dating cred increases because you start dating other people, she will become more romatincally inclined, but, by then, you might be gone.... don’t ruin the friendship unless you never wanted it to just be a friendship.
just get a thicker wallet and try again
She isn't interested in you in that way. Move on.
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