My roommate hasn't had any in-person human interaction in months. Think he's losing it. Need help.

You're not overreacting. That sounds extreme.

If he doesn't respond to trying to talk to him in person, can you write a letter to him? Ask him how you can help, you don't have to know what's going on.

I'm just wondering if he has OCD/fear of germs, or maybe he has a medical condition. Otherwise, it sounds like something bad happened, or he may be having a breakdown. He might be frightened. However, that doesn't really explain why he wouldn't go for walks outside.

Do you know his family or any of his close friends?

I'd be concerned he is suicidal too.

Honestly, at this point, I would contact someone. It's not like it's been a week. You say it's been since September? The only problem I forsee is if you contact someone at the navy, any repercussions for yourself from him seeing as you're living with him.

Good luck, it sounds like a bad situation.

If I were you I’d move as soon as you can. Your 31 so it’s time to get married and not live with strange men.

block porn websites on your wifi and see if he comes out of his room

It sounds like a serious problem. But if he's just a roommate and not a friend, all you can do is move out or kick him out at the end of the lease.

What's his 5K PR?

What's his 10k PR, maybe he's struggling to break 41 min and he's depressed about it ?

What's his mile PR ? He needs to do more speed workouts

Sounds like a mass shooter in the making. Military too? I would move out or get the guy evaluated asap.

Often, Navy guys spend at least 2 1/2 years of their 4 years in Navy out to sea. Some guys are used to living in very small areas, especially submariners.

give him a massage and maybe order a pizza

As long as he doesn't own a firearm, then all is well. If he has or buys a firearm then call the police. He's clearly dealing with some psychological trauma and eventually he will snap. This is the exact story of how all mass shootings happen.

Either mind your business or move out. Pretty simple choices.

He sounds like a good person with feelings and deserves respect. My recommendation would be to hang photos in the restroom and the hallway and beside the door so he always sees them when he goes to the bathroom or leaves the room to answer the door. Print out pictures of Bekele running and put them in frames or something. That is bound to get him to start talking to you in a normal way. If he doesn't know Bekele he will be curious and will question you. That is your opportunity to literally break the ice. You can tell him all about Bekele and it will also inspire the fukk out of him to leave the house to run. Offer to run with him. Compliment him by telling him he can be just like Bekele and say things that will make him laugh like "Why did Bekele cross the road, He wanted to see how far he could run in 1 second". Bring a coffee into his room or something and offer to be eachother's wingman to find cute girls

who the hell orders a sandwich for delivery?

that's the part that jumped out at me.

the staying in his room part doesn't worry me on its own as much, but the change in behavior after a break-up does.

bu don't be too quick to rule out your own behavior as a potential cause.

I once had a half-deaf borderline-alcoholic super-talkative roommate that either talk-yelled at me directly or had super loud drunk conversations on their phone for hours at time. I humored him for a few weeks or so when I first moved in and would hang out for a bit every day, watching some brainless 90's cop show or something while he drank and yelled boring personal anecdotes at me but in the end it was just a waste of time and life and wasn't worth it.... the last two months I basically spoke to him less than 5 mins or less a day and kept my door closed at all times and ate in my room most of the time.

Any interaction with him could easily become a 30 min 100dB monologue so it just wasn't worth the risk of even being available for conversation. Each one felt like a drain of time, life, and energy.

The thing was, he was a super nice guy but pretty oblivious and in his mind he probably thought something was wrong with me and his forced conversations might have been his way of 'helping'.

I mean it sounds like your roommate probably has something else going especially on considering his breakup, but don't rule out that they might just be avoiding you for reasons you can't detect. We often are blind to our own behavior.

I would error on the safe side and try one more time to talk to him and tell him your thinking of moving out because it's causing stress on you and try to get him to open up.

If really seems like he's seriously depressed I would try to find an outside person that knows him well and let them know, or find a NAVY professional that could contact him. But at that point, I would probably plan on leaving because they might get pissed and it sounds like you already have concerns about living there.

On one hand it's not your problem, and maybe nothin you can do could help, and you're probably not the person that can help, but it's the right move to try to find the person who can.

Hindsight is 2020 wrote:

If I were you I’d move as soon as you can. Your 31 so it’s time to get married and not live with strange men.

Yeah, because that's the key to life.

Does he post in letsrun regularly? Is there plot twist that we are all this person? Or is it jamin?

Let us know what happens when the FBI break down your doors...do you have to foot the bill?

The change in behavior happened before the breakup.

I mostly stay in my room too and mostly listen when I talk with people. I've had 6 roommates in my life and have gotten along fine to great with all of them.

Staying in his room is not the alarming thing. Voluntarily living a life that is extremely socially isolated and schizoid and becoming an entirely different person from who he was a year ago is the alarming thing.

OP, the fact he doesn't get out of his room is alarming. Even those on death row get outside 1 hour a day. There is a reason for that.