Is it worth getting married?

Definitely worth it! There are so many advantages of being married. I highly recommend it.

Unless you happen to like sex

Understand what it is going in and it’s great. There IS NO perfect marriage. Lots of young guys expect to feel the same way about their wife forever, then they see it is a failure when they inevitably run into issues. Then they cheat or get divorced. It’s a partnership that takes WORK to maintain, but if you do so properly the rewards are great. Provided you’ve treated each other well and worked through the hard times, that person is in your corner through anything, and down the road life will throw you crap you don’t want to deal with alone. You’ve got someone who knows you better than anyone and will walk through hell by your side

MelRnr wrote:

Married couples have higher rates of happiness, and are better off financially.

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/married-couples-are-happier-than-everyone-else-especially-in-middle-age-2019-05-23

They live longer too.

Marry someone who loves to cook. All wives eventually lose interest in sex but if they love to cook you’ll always be taken care of.

Being married is a lot like running, what you get out of it largely depends on what you're willing to put in to it. Over the decades, I've had to constantly evolve in both my approach to running and marriage but my investment in both has paid enormous dividends. The thing that's hard to communicate/understand is the level of trust, admiration and respect you develop for someone over the course of twenty plus years. When you look across the dinner table, you see the person that helped raise your kids, fight through tough times and supported you when you really might not have been so great. Trust me, true partnership was not on my "wish list" when I was in my twenties but it's what I most appreciate in my fifties. People used to talk a lot about marriage as "a leap of faith." I think that's a good characterization. God knows, I was in no way 100% certain I was doing the right thing standing at the end of the aisle but I don't know anyone that's happier with his marriage than me. Keep a positive attitude, know that you're going to have to change and look to be helpful and good things will happen for you and your spouse. Of course, it also really helps to commit to the idea that this is the person you're going to be with for life. That's a great motivator for focusing on solutions rather than problems.

My parents were stupid enough to marry back in the 90's. Shortly afterwards, when they got divorced, my Dad lost everything. He lost his house, most of his belongings and kept only his barely road legal old van. He was forced to move back in with his Mum well into his 40's. On top of that he had to pay loads of money to my unemployed Mum as 'child support'. Took him several decades to get back to the point he was at pre-divorce. Never get married.

Angelo Mysterioso wrote:

candlestick maker wrote:

The only reason to get married is if you plan to have children. If not, what's the point?

This.

If you plan to own assets together (like a house) it makes sense to get married. Courts are not set-up to divide up the assets of unmarried people.

"I don't rap to get the women, f*** b****es.

Give me a fat slut that cooks and does dishes."

The first question should be: Is it worth getting married with the romantic fantasy wedding traditions? What a frekin abberation! Why does everyone create totally unnecessary stress and financial strain with upper class formal attire, expensive rings, expensive wedding and expensive honeymoon? That's just an obscene waste that turns off 90% of guys, where they start the marriage off by caving in to the social pressures to play out some royalty fantasy. I never hear about women who object to that. Gotta wonder if they really buy into that fantasy, or are just as trapped by it as the guys.

A good marriage is the best thing you can have in life. A great single life is next best. An okay marriage is better than a good or okay single life. But a bad marriage is far far worse than a bad single life.

Divorce is a disaster, especially if there are kids. You’ll never be rid of the other person because you have to co-parent. You’ll both be poorer. And the fighting and Legal drama are just brutal. I am not divorced but am at the age now where I’ve watched a handful of friends go through it.

Marriage is a risky move, but remaining single is also a risk when marriage is an option. I have neen married for 22 years and it is by far the best decision I ever made, but how sure can you possibly be on your wedding day ? Divorces can be devastating when kids are involved. Parents can be devastated when kids turn out bad.

Parker Stinson’s mom in law went nuts on Instagram to publicly humiliate him i assume. Even if Parker did something wrong, that’s just not the way to go about it

Just be sure that when you marry you check out the family too. What you marry into (the family) really matters just as much as person you marry

Yes. My wife and daughter are the very best parts of my life, and I wouldn't know what to do without them.

Obviously not everyone feels this way, but when it works...it really works.

worth it 100% no doubt. find someone you love as a person, accept early that they aren't perfect , and work together and make it great. There's nothing better than having someone who has your back no matter what . Or having another mind to help you figure out life problems/challenges

most end in divorce because of unrealistic expectations coupled with marrying for the wrong reasons... ie physical appearance which wanes, as well as social status, or money, which are gone in the blink of an eye.

LeBronFAM wrote:

Considering how many end in divorce, and then the unhappy ones, why does anyone bother with it. Plus when you get older and gross looking you still have to be with your old gross partner.

Yeah marriage is awesome given 2 conditions:

1. Your spouse isn't crazy(or selfish)

2. You aren't crazy(or selfish)

There are A TON of crazies out there. Be very careful. I'm 10 years into my marriage and its amazing. No regrets.

Totally depends. If you want to spend your life selfishly doing whatever the hell you want, do not get married. If you want to do the opposite, get married. You fill in the gaps.

LeBronFAM wrote:

Considering how many end in divorce, and then the unhappy ones, why does anyone bother with it. Plus when you get older and gross looking you still have to be with your old gross partner.

This is a bit like somebody who doesn’t run saying that they think it’s dumb because it’s hard and will wreck your knees.

Marriage is for idiots wrote:

My parents were stupid enough to marry back in the 90's. Shortly afterwards, when they got divorced, my Dad lost everything. He lost his house, most of his belongings and kept only his barely road legal old van. He was forced to move back in with his Mum well into his 40's. On top of that he had to pay loads of money to my unemployed Mum as 'child support'. Took him several decades to get back to the point he was at pre-divorce. Never get married.

Anecdotally replicated worldwide. I've been called "weird" and a "horrible, selfish person" for refusing to submit to what is essentially socially-sanctioned servitude and loss of control over my own life. While I'll admit to a bit of a misanthropic streak and can only tolerate human beings to a limit, I've always been honest about my disinclination to being tethered in any sort of way to a person or people I'm not related to by blood. No marriage or kids for me. Many of us are social animals, some of us are not.

El Keniano wrote:

Anecdotally replicated worldwide. I've been called "weird" and a "horrible, selfish person" for refusing to submit to what is essentially socially-sanctioned servitude and loss of control over my own life. While I'll admit to a bit of a misanthropic streak and can only tolerate human beings to a limit, I've always been honest about my disinclination to being tethered in any sort of way to a person or people I'm not related to by blood. No marriage or kids for me. Many of us are social animals, some of us are not.

It's good that you acknowledge this. Many people try to shoe horn relationships or marriage in and they end up lasting for a short time.

However, I do believe that marriage and children makes men in particular better men. I'm definitely more patient, selfless, responsible and loving of others than I would be otherwise. Having kids has also been a huge motivator to make money to earn for my family ... I make 3-4x more now than I did 8 years ago before having kids.